I hate myself and my life, what do I do?

Hey Ryan,

I can only speak from my own experiences, but I have found for me that the most important thing in my life, above everything else, is my relationship with my thoughts. Because that impacts on how I look at the world.


My advice for is to learn how to develop a stronger relationship with your thoughts.


You create your own reality, your thoughts create your perspective, which flow on to how you feel, how you act and what sort of impact that has on your day to day.


We see the world in the way that we are, not the way that the world is and if you can change the way that you look at things, the things you look at change. So everything in life is about your perspective and figuring out how to look at things in the best light for you (everyone is unique).


Be careful how you look at life, because that's how it will be. And life comes in waves, it's all about learning how to surf.


I'm not any kind of professional so I can't comment on whether seeing a professional is an option - it could be an option for where you're at. But from my perspective those kind of things are only good at treating things on the surface kind of area (which can be a good way to start), dealing with the different manifestations/symptoms of similar core issues.


Core issues being some kind of imbalance with your relationship between you and your thoughts…


Your mind is a tool that you need to learn how to use otherwise it will use you. It'll paint all kinds of pictures about how bad your life is, the terrible things that have happened, the unfortunate situation etc etc. You need to learn how to use the mind like a tool and master it, otherwise it will use you. This isn't the sort of thing that they teach us in school…


You are not your thoughts and you can't necessarily control your thoughts as much as you can control the ocean. It's about becoming more aware of your thinking, observing your mind objectively, without attachment and developing a stronger relationship with it to take the best action for you at that given time.


Think more epic, be more epic. It all starts with thought.


Life is about 10% what happens to you, things that are outside of your control, then 90% how you CHOOSE to react to it. You can't control life or other people, the only thing that you can control is your reaction to them.



Without the thought that there is a problem, there is no problem, it's all how you look at it. As Captain Jack Sparrow says, "The problem is not the problem, the problem is your reaction to the problem. Do you understand?"


I've put together video series called the 'Think Epic Principles' and at http://thinkepic.net/principles/ of simple concepts and ideas to help you develop a stronger relationship with your thoughts. Please go along and check them out there is more coming out every week, they could be what you're looking for.


Approach everything with an open mind but no so open that your brain falls out all over the floor. I'm not asking anyone to believe what I say, but take it with a grain of salt and think for yourself. But whatever is said (whether it was me, Ghandi, friends or family, a homeless person etc) if it aligns with you feel free to accept it, if it doesn't don't. But do seek to understand different perspectives. Just because you can understand something, does not mean you have to accept it.


If you find the videos useful or if you have any questions please fire me an email through the site, I'd be really interested to hear your thoughts as I've just launched the website to help people develop a stronger relationship with their thoughts - if they want to. Any feedback would be much appreciated, the more honest the better :)


Thanks and good luck!

same. I hate this life too. it is so boring.
listen to some music on youtube will solve it.
try "best of forever love" songs, that might work.
play games, have fun while you can, before everything gets worse.
you still have a long way ahead to go - life is full of fun, if you let it be.
don't let it pull you down - defying gravity - try to fight against it! I bet that'll be fun ;)
song: Just died in your arms, don't stop believing.

well that's pretty easy to answer.you try to change everything you get to chance to and can. so every little opretunity you have to change even just a little bit take it