understanding?

There is nothing wrong with being intellect and want to be stable; but considering your age and strategically speaking in attracting a “woman” to get stable with you, you have to understand two key things: 1. Woman/Girl wants man/boy who is interesting while dating and with a sense of security (or stable) with prospective advances (financial/career/education/personality). 2. Woman/Girl is emotional and expressive, so they like to know “everything” but it is not for intellectual understanding but for emotional fulfillment. So as you say you may be high IQ, so be conscious not to “lecture/explain about things” but try to talk about “how you SEE things”. Eventually, if you meet more people and willing to express how you “see”, some women/girls may like what they “see” in how you “see”; this may be one of the ways to join the IQ with the EQ (as you see it). This is no simple answer to your topic. But worst come to worst, I’m sure if you work hard (in your job and education), your type should be very popular when you are 30-35. So my suggestion may be for you to start liking woman in 25-30s instead of trying to date/like girl in 20s. Try to meet and understand what unmarried women after their 30s want and what kind of man will make them wanted. You may need 5-10 years to understand woman. And you will need at least 10 year of work before you can be “stable”.

Be happy with every day and try to “see” interesting aspects in all things.