I have a couple events from my childhood that bring me pain and grief to think about. One in particular from my teen years (this one happened about 13 years ago now), I'm 26 now.
I don't think about it often as I try to block it out and for years I did it successfully but it still comes up every so often.
Is it normal for people to have bad memories that they can't get over?
It hurts so much to think about but I could never confront the person that did it to me because it's been over a decade in which I haven't even seen or spoken to them.
So there's no way I can contact them and air my grievances even if it is killing me inside, it would be too creepy and weird. I'm almost certain they felt bad about it back then, but still, as I said it's been so long. Even though I never spoke to them about what happened I still wish that I did and that I could today.
How to deal with bad memories of your past?
2013-06-24 5:55 am
回答 (5)
2013-06-24 11:33 am
meditation is not enough, you need to understand what to do with your thoughts.
all you have to do is stop giving attention to any thoughts you don't like, if you try to fight them, that's giving them attention. i was depressed and this is what got me out of it:
Truthcontest.com THE PRESENT
here is an excerpt from there:
"Emotions: Spiritual people will keep all of their positive emotions and aspects of their personalities. You will still feel negative emotions, but you will not give them life as you did in the past. You can have the good mind made things without the bad mind made things; you just have to give life to the good emotions and not give life to the bad ones.
It is one of the ways that your mind will change itself. It will begin to be selective as to what parts of the mind it will give life to. The negative parts of the mind will wither away from neglect and the positive parts of the mind will become stronger."
all you have to do is stop giving attention to any thoughts you don't like, if you try to fight them, that's giving them attention. i was depressed and this is what got me out of it:
Truthcontest.com THE PRESENT
here is an excerpt from there:
"Emotions: Spiritual people will keep all of their positive emotions and aspects of their personalities. You will still feel negative emotions, but you will not give them life as you did in the past. You can have the good mind made things without the bad mind made things; you just have to give life to the good emotions and not give life to the bad ones.
It is one of the ways that your mind will change itself. It will begin to be selective as to what parts of the mind it will give life to. The negative parts of the mind will wither away from neglect and the positive parts of the mind will become stronger."
2013-06-24 6:19 am
A lot of people has bad memories they can't get over. They just don't show it/reveal it to you.
I also has bad memories of the past like 2 to 3 years ago, when bad stuffs happen, till now I can still remember the scenerio. It was killing me inside and now I have subscribe to medication. Bad stuffs happen all too often in life and I cannot help but feel the sorrow inside of me. So right now I am doing the best I could to recover: to start doing something, I just helped my mum mopping the floor and it was hard, but rewarding, spiritually. maybe I could read some books to switch my attention to something else. Right now I am answering questions on yahoo answers to try to help out with other people with their questions, so it is not a bad thing, but a rewarding thing to do. It is my job. I may try to go out for a little while at a later time to free myself from grief, pain and sorrow. I could do some window shopping then, and eat something I like; going to the book store might also helps. I think the best thing you can do right now is to let go of your past. If you keep holding on to the grief, it won't make you happy. so the best thing is to let it go, and try to find something else to do, something else to think about. I hope I can borrow some dvds to watch, if I have the time. and some new books too. but that's for me. you will have to find something you want to do in life to be happy and to let go of the bad stuffs. you don't have to confron the person; you just need to let go and put your mind to something that you are interested in doing. That's the best thing you can do about these things. good luck, buddy.
I also has bad memories of the past like 2 to 3 years ago, when bad stuffs happen, till now I can still remember the scenerio. It was killing me inside and now I have subscribe to medication. Bad stuffs happen all too often in life and I cannot help but feel the sorrow inside of me. So right now I am doing the best I could to recover: to start doing something, I just helped my mum mopping the floor and it was hard, but rewarding, spiritually. maybe I could read some books to switch my attention to something else. Right now I am answering questions on yahoo answers to try to help out with other people with their questions, so it is not a bad thing, but a rewarding thing to do. It is my job. I may try to go out for a little while at a later time to free myself from grief, pain and sorrow. I could do some window shopping then, and eat something I like; going to the book store might also helps. I think the best thing you can do right now is to let go of your past. If you keep holding on to the grief, it won't make you happy. so the best thing is to let it go, and try to find something else to do, something else to think about. I hope I can borrow some dvds to watch, if I have the time. and some new books too. but that's for me. you will have to find something you want to do in life to be happy and to let go of the bad stuffs. you don't have to confron the person; you just need to let go and put your mind to something that you are interested in doing. That's the best thing you can do about these things. good luck, buddy.
參考: Living
2013-06-24 5:57 am
Meditate and let them go. There's nothing we can do to change the past. When you understand that what happened doesn't affect you presently, you can move on. We all choose what we want to feel, the pain and grief is what you choose by holding on to those memories.
參考: Life and meditation.
2013-06-24 5:57 am
Just remember the past is the past don't think about the past cause you never no what your missing in the future...
2013-06-24 5:57 am
Everyone has bad memories. Some horrible that cause PTSD, some are just things we don't want to think about. It will be okay. Live for today not yesterday
參考: Life experience
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