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Friendships can be quite....complicated.
I've been in your situation more times than I can count, and it really sucks to be taken advantage of. These people are called "Fair-Weather Friends". This means that they're with you when things are good, but bail at the first sign of trouble. These people tend to use others to feel better about their lives, but act as though others are bringing them down if they're asked to lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on. Quite selfish, unfortunately.
It's good that you're realizing this sooner rather than later. It's time to stand up for yourself, though. I know it's hard to be so callous, but you simply should not waste your time caring so much about friends who won't do the same for you. Friendships are a give-take relationship. If one person always takes and another always gives, the friendship is bound to end poorly for the giver.
I once had a friend who I would always help through his drama. It seemed like every week he'd have a new problem that needed to be solved. Being the nice girl I am, I always went out of my way and sacrificed to help. However, one day I needed to vent to him about a very hurtful thing that happened in my life. He literally told me that he doesn't care about my problems. I was stunned. I learned this lesson the hard way.
If someone is not willing to help you as much as you help them, simply stop. Tell them if they won't be there for you, you can't keep sacrificing yourself for them. You haven't done anything wrong, sweetheart. You're being a great friend, and they are not. Life's too short to waste it on those who hurt you.