Why doesn't anybody care?

2013-06-23 3:15 am
I am a really nice girl... Ok I am always there for everyone, a shoulder to cry on and I never ask for anything in return. I believe I have a gold heart, and I don't care how much anybody has hurt me, I will not let them down. But, lately I've been noticing that nobody does the same for me... Even if they say they will always be there they aren't at the times I need them much. Like my friend, let's call him Josh, said he'd always be there but he is only there 50% of the time. He used to be here for me all the time and now he's not... I just wanna know where I went wrong. I feel as though whenever I open up to anybody they get annoyed and just leave... I don't understand and I can't vent to anyone anymore and I really can't take it anymore. I just had a really bad breakup to... Nobody to talk to :'(... 10 points if you can answer where I went wrong and how come when you are so nice to everyone you just get **** on...

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2013-06-23 3:27 am
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Friendships can be quite....complicated.

I've been in your situation more times than I can count, and it really sucks to be taken advantage of. These people are called "Fair-Weather Friends". This means that they're with you when things are good, but bail at the first sign of trouble. These people tend to use others to feel better about their lives, but act as though others are bringing them down if they're asked to lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on. Quite selfish, unfortunately.

It's good that you're realizing this sooner rather than later. It's time to stand up for yourself, though. I know it's hard to be so callous, but you simply should not waste your time caring so much about friends who won't do the same for you. Friendships are a give-take relationship. If one person always takes and another always gives, the friendship is bound to end poorly for the giver.

I once had a friend who I would always help through his drama. It seemed like every week he'd have a new problem that needed to be solved. Being the nice girl I am, I always went out of my way and sacrificed to help. However, one day I needed to vent to him about a very hurtful thing that happened in my life. He literally told me that he doesn't care about my problems. I was stunned. I learned this lesson the hard way.

If someone is not willing to help you as much as you help them, simply stop. Tell them if they won't be there for you, you can't keep sacrificing yourself for them. You haven't done anything wrong, sweetheart. You're being a great friend, and they are not. Life's too short to waste it on those who hurt you.
2013-06-23 10:37 am
Don't expect anything in return even when you have given out something really nice. it may or may not return to you. In this life there can be no returns at all, so you will have to be careful of giving. Don't give out unless you have to.
not everyone in this world has a good heart like you do. Just carry on what you are doing, but this time, don't expect anything in return because expecting something in return could be painful when you don't get what you wanted. Remember this, part of the world itself is created by our thoughts, our perspectives. Make sure you don't fall into the "trap". and lastly, know that I do care about you. take care I am a jedi from star wars the old republic
Kind regards,
Lilyevangeline, Jedi Sage
參考: Living
2013-06-23 10:26 am
Just be yourself! Don't think about others. Also try to find new friends always. Of course with care. You are not wrong anywhere, you are perfect, just be yourself and don't let them that you need them. Life is like that. Don't worry always believe in that some will some won't so what next!


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