Would you change yourself for other people?

2013-06-21 12:01 am
My friend said he would change himself for other people, so he would be more well liked by other people.
Personally I don't think it's a good idea, as I feel you would lose yourself.
When I say change I mean personality quirks. Like laughing a lot, or being quiet etc.
I understand changing when people are concerned about your well being so I don't mean that.

回答 (6)

2013-06-21 12:22 am
Like sh*te I would! The types of people who expect you to change, are the types of people who think they're perfect and wouldn't change for you in return. You're right to say that you would lose your self because that can be a dark place once whoever it is you changed for has F***ed you off. Because you don't make friends like that, because the person you change for is popular because of their personality and being themselves not others.

So tell your friend this, If you really want to be like them, then be yourself. Because that's exactly what they're doing.

Hope I helped :)
2013-06-21 12:11 am
I learned it is best to only change yourself in a positive way.

But if I had to change myself in to being liked more by some stupid bunch of people who will not accept me for who I am, either way. then no. But to make myself more confident, then yes.
2013-06-21 12:05 am
I don't really care what people think. Especially if I don't know them.
However, if my good friends find something I do really annoying and ask me to stop, I will because of my respect for them.
But other than that, I don't care what other people think about me. I am who I am, and I'm happy with that.
2013-06-21 12:02 am
nooooo you change yourself because YOU want to... changing yourself to be like someone else will not be You and you will regret it in the future
2013-06-21 12:46 pm
No it is not good. I wouldn't change myself for other people.
Large part of the reason is that you will lose yourself and your direction if you make the shift.
You have to know where you are going and where it is the best place for you to be.
You might need to change a little bit to get along with people, but keep your personality.
I have my dreams, that's all, and I wouldn't want anyone to alter that, because I want to keep my dreams. dreams of childhood. although sometimes a change of pace is nice, but I don't want too much changes because too much changes will screw up my personality, so it is a no.
Unless a good advice is given by a tutor/teacher/my family, I won't make unnecessary attempts to change anything because unnecessary changes will screw up my life because I've tried it before. I've tried to change myself for other people's expectations and I ended up suffering the consequences, so it's a no. I won't want to see anymore suffering. There has been enough suffering/pain in this world and I don't want to see bad stuffs from happening.
參考: it's kinda personal
2013-06-21 12:04 am
Only if its for your own good to better yourself or your personality. Why laugh if its not funny? Why talk if theirs is nothing to say? Nothing is wrong with being quiet.

People always change, it's better for him to change himself than to have others change him.


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