唉..我都唔知點啊...
我都已經17歲, 係女仔
我屋企人係hk.我係澳洲7年了
7年尼日日都同打電話番香港同啊媽king 計, 我曾經有try to convince her 可5可以3日打一次俾佢so I dont have to buy so much phone credit, cuz 都唔平ga 仲要係IDD and she said no 因為我仲細. I understand...
BUT DUDE!!! Im 17 now ... Is it necessary to call her everyday?!
今年係我係澳洲最候一年
所以諗住同朋友去syd 玩around 3至4日
我尼左澳洲咁多年bin到都未去過! Only stay at BNE...
尼個朋友都唔知會唔會有可能會見到in the future. so we want to at least to go somewhere together and look for uni in syd for my frd.
咁我諗住佢應該都ok啦...因為我啊媽都知道我地係好frd o既又知道佢係唔會教壞我的朋友!
佢話咩個個term holiday 都要去旅行搞錯啊! 但係個truth係 I didn't went anywhere inside or outside of Australia during any of the holiday and my entire life!
only aust and hk thats all I went for my entire life.
So I was assuming that she was talking about June's holiday...
however 我話要stay in Aust cuz I have so much study to do, need to prepare for the most important exam in BNE and COME ON DUDE! im going bk to hk next year so I dont see the point for me to go bk hk just for 3 weeks !!!!! BUT she stills booked the ticket for me to return hk on june's holiday.
Anyway the days that we were planning to go syd is after all the exams like around September.
點知佢發晒癲話唔比然後cut 我線囉! 之前佢講過話唔鍾意我cut 佢線咁之候我都冇cut 過佢線la! 最近到唔知佢係到仲咩! 同佢king 親電話都會無lala係到發皮4!
Anyway 今次唔係我第一次問! 上年都有問過但係我知道我自己仲’細‘所以媽媽話No 個時我仲accept 到!
但係我今年都18 y.o la!
英文我又唔係唔識! 仲有我咁細個佢都pak 我去澳洲讀書佢都放心la!
點解BNE 同 SYD, MEB 咁近都唔俾去?! 我講過如果去到there I will stills call her everyday
總之就覺得好煩, 最近同佢講完電話都冇晒心情, 冇心機溫書做野!!
P.S. 我啊媽係個種決定左就算點樣convince 都change 唔到佢ge decisions o既 人尼ga TT
唉....我都唔知到時番到香港how am I gonna face her for the rest of my life -.,-
I know I cant choose my mother, but HOW?!
唉....我都唔知點啊...
2013-04-18 5:00 am
回答 (6)
2013-04-27 8:08 am
✔ 最佳答案
所有人都有青春少年時,同樣情況日日都發生在不同的人身上,現在你一定認為自己啱阿媽煩,現在沒法用道理去向你苦口婆心,因為心智不會在你這年齡一下子成熟起來,如果你真的要高飛,那就小心飛吧!希望你阿媽也明白壓迫越大,反抗越大.但是可以告訴你,以後當你成熟時,有了兒女後,一定會為當日所為後悔,他日你阿媽百年回歸,誰會哭得最傷心?告訴你,不是别人,是你.
2013-04-27 5:52 am
calling your mom 唔係因為細先至要 call，佢只不過想聽下你把聲。你同朋友都成日talking啦，就當你媽係你 D 朋友。或且可以解釋下你讀書好忙，所以不能日日打電話，相信慢慢解釋你媽咪會明。
歳數不單只是數字，要你的行為證明你已長大了。你不是跟媽咪一起住，她怎知道你已長大了？或許在她心目中，你仍然是當時的10歳小朋友。所以，她看不到你的行為，你就必需以說話來表逹你懂得照顧自己，懂得為自己的未來著想，懂得選擇好的朋友。因此更需要跟她通電話。
你問的"點解BNE 同 SYD, MEB 咁近都唔俾去?! " 有問過你媽咪嗎？首先要說服到佢俾你去，你要找出去的理由。如果你自己都無point，係咁話要去，說服力就好低。也要找出why佢唔俾你去，你先可以解釋反，令她知道不必擔心。例如：如果她覺得syd危險，你可解釋說那是大城市，好安全。又或者解釋下你可能以後都唔會同這個朋友見面，所以想一起去旅行，留下些回憶。
記住，你現在已18歳，應懂得從父母角度唸，若有不同意見，要找出你自己的point，之後慢慢再解釋
我不清楚你現在的困境是什麼，總之這是一些見意，good luck!
歳數不單只是數字，要你的行為證明你已長大了。你不是跟媽咪一起住，她怎知道你已長大了？或許在她心目中，你仍然是當時的10歳小朋友。所以，她看不到你的行為，你就必需以說話來表逹你懂得照顧自己，懂得為自己的未來著想，懂得選擇好的朋友。因此更需要跟她通電話。
你問的"點解BNE 同 SYD, MEB 咁近都唔俾去?! " 有問過你媽咪嗎？首先要說服到佢俾你去，你要找出去的理由。如果你自己都無point，係咁話要去，說服力就好低。也要找出why佢唔俾你去，你先可以解釋反，令她知道不必擔心。例如：如果她覺得syd危險，你可解釋說那是大城市，好安全。又或者解釋下你可能以後都唔會同這個朋友見面，所以想一起去旅行，留下些回憶。
記住，你現在已18歳，應懂得從父母角度唸，若有不同意見，要找出你自己的point，之後慢慢再解釋
我不清楚你現在的困境是什麼，總之這是一些見意，good luck!
2013-04-24 5:03 am
hi
i am studying in brisbane and turning 18 this year
i phone my mum when i need to find her but i whatsapp her everyday
i think u can use 'lucky dragon' phone card to call ur mum, $10 for 1000 mins and if you buy in a duty free shop, it will be $8 for 1000
ur mum think u are still a little girl because u didn't show her u are big enough to take care urself
maybe u need to show her that u can have ur own decision
u may try to promise her to keep contact with her everyday with messages instead of calling her everday
i know after having QCS u may feel less stressful but ur mum may think that u are still in yr 12 and u should not go any where else before u graduate
she spent so much money for u too study in aus she might have a different situation with u so try to understand her and discuss with her again
BTW dont angry with ur mum, she must miss u so much
i am studying in brisbane and turning 18 this year
i phone my mum when i need to find her but i whatsapp her everyday
i think u can use 'lucky dragon' phone card to call ur mum, $10 for 1000 mins and if you buy in a duty free shop, it will be $8 for 1000
ur mum think u are still a little girl because u didn't show her u are big enough to take care urself
maybe u need to show her that u can have ur own decision
u may try to promise her to keep contact with her everyday with messages instead of calling her everday
i know after having QCS u may feel less stressful but ur mum may think that u are still in yr 12 and u should not go any where else before u graduate
she spent so much money for u too study in aus she might have a different situation with u so try to understand her and discuss with her again
BTW dont angry with ur mum, she must miss u so much
2013-04-21 8:25 pm
大多母親都是緊張自己的兒女的，就算兒女十多嵗或四十多嵗。有父母關心及財力支持肯定是幸福的。
我建議你讀好書，然後找份自己喜歡的工作，儘快財政獨立，便可不須父母批准便可到自己喜歡的地方旅行，買自己喜歡的東西。
我建議你讀好書，然後找份自己喜歡的工作，儘快財政獨立，便可不須父母批准便可到自己喜歡的地方旅行，買自己喜歡的東西。
2013-04-20 5:24 am
中加英.....
母親只是得1個 要珍惜呀 你內容我唔太明
保重
母親只是得1個 要珍惜呀 你內容我唔太明
保重
2013-04-19 1:28 am
全篇內容都好清楚, 唯一欠的就是閣下的背景, 與閣下母親的狀況背景, 沒有背景怎知yr mum 為何會咁? 亦沒有資料見到閣下這7年來如何過....
電話費貴? 可以用skype, 可以用whatsapp, 視像都得啦, 有無限上網咭吧! 這個問題都是問題的話, 閣下怎去叫別人相信閣下可以獨立自處?
不偏幫閣下 or yr mom, 閣下是"女", 可能還是"獨女", 做mum 的當然担心, 無論兒女多大, 在父母心目中都是小孩, 這個相信閣下可以理解的, 對吧!
先不去看yr mum 如何, 因為大家都不認識你們, 亦不能就閣下所講的作結論.
首先, 7 年來閣下還未能讓母親放心的原因何在?
7 年 - 誰為閣下訂來回機票? 要換証件等等的事由誰處理? 當無聊孤獨/生日時希望誰在掛念閣下? 遇到想逃避某人某事時, 閣下想到誰會幫你? 要錢用時, 閣下會做part-time打工?辛苦嗎?
要改變別人的做法想法, 先要改變自己的做法, 要改自己的做法, 就要改變自己的想法. 閣下要你媽放心和相信你, 給你自己空間及決定權, 就必須讓她先相信你, 如何做就看閣下自己, 對抗是無腦的做法, 冷戰是幼自的思想, 逃避是沒有自處自理的表現.
怎樣做.....禮貌令人接受, 聆聽令人感覺尊重, 說話不以自己為先令人相信. 閣下能做得到的話, 就能改變your mum.
good luck! 切記母親最愛的人就是自己的子女, 好自為之!
電話費貴? 可以用skype, 可以用whatsapp, 視像都得啦, 有無限上網咭吧! 這個問題都是問題的話, 閣下怎去叫別人相信閣下可以獨立自處?
不偏幫閣下 or yr mom, 閣下是"女", 可能還是"獨女", 做mum 的當然担心, 無論兒女多大, 在父母心目中都是小孩, 這個相信閣下可以理解的, 對吧!
先不去看yr mum 如何, 因為大家都不認識你們, 亦不能就閣下所講的作結論.
首先, 7 年來閣下還未能讓母親放心的原因何在?
7 年 - 誰為閣下訂來回機票? 要換証件等等的事由誰處理? 當無聊孤獨/生日時希望誰在掛念閣下? 遇到想逃避某人某事時, 閣下想到誰會幫你? 要錢用時, 閣下會做part-time打工?辛苦嗎?
要改變別人的做法想法, 先要改變自己的做法, 要改自己的做法, 就要改變自己的想法. 閣下要你媽放心和相信你, 給你自己空間及決定權, 就必須讓她先相信你, 如何做就看閣下自己, 對抗是無腦的做法, 冷戰是幼自的思想, 逃避是沒有自處自理的表現.
怎樣做.....禮貌令人接受, 聆聽令人感覺尊重, 說話不以自己為先令人相信. 閣下能做得到的話, 就能改變your mum.
good luck! 切記母親最愛的人就是自己的子女, 好自為之!
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