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The truth is that screaming, hollering, insults and harsh constant punishments are not the way to raising good responsible children. It's logical. How do you feel when someone treats you that way? No one in their sound mind likes to me yelled at or treated with lack of respect. We usually get angry when someone treats us that way and that is exactly what happens when children are treated that way. They become angry and bitter with their parents and turn rebellious to try to show you that they don't like the way you are treating them. This reaction makes sense. Adults do it too. The screaming and anger method will never work. The bible says in Ephesians 4:31, 32: "Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness. But become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you."
Kindness and compassion go a long way. We all like it when people try to understand our feelings and show compassion when we make mistakes. Try to treat your children that way. When you love your children and truly want to help them you will do your best to change if you must in order to win their love and respect. Punishments don't have to be physical and you never have to be abusive in your speech in order to correct your children. Try treating your children how you would like to be treated. There is an amazing book called, "The secret to family happiness" which covers all these subjects and more. You can ask any Jehovah's witness for it, it's free. You can also go to
www.jw.org and they have a section especially for parents. Check it out, I think it will inspire you.