1. Do you find that you shut down when others come at you with any angry or even aggressive emotions?
2. Do you respond better when people calmly argue with you?
3. Do you have many friends but no more than one is really close to you? You may let one in as a significant other but everyone else is kept at arms length.
4. Is it hard for you to let that one person in?
5. Are you secretly very emotional?
6. Do you not like to let others see this side of you?
7. If someone is bothering you in a negative way, do you lash out at them in some way to distance yourself from them?
8. in a relationship, do you find yourself at least initially wanting jump into it, then later on saying to yourself "what the hell am i doing?" and try to get out of it?