My parents won't allow me to see my boyfriend (inappropriate)?

2012-06-21 8:33 pm

Okay, I've been dating him for 6 months, and we're very committed to one another; I was his first kiss, and he was mine (I'm 16 and he's 17)
We really are in love, and we really want to stay together at least until college and definitely through High School.
Unfortunately, I left my Facebook open one day and they ended up finding some VERY inappropriate talk between us on our messages regarding something I'd done to him (the farthest we have gone is me going down on him) and now I'm not allowed to see him AT ALL.
We talk on the phone every day, but I need to SEE him; we had a class together during school so I was able to see him every day, but now I can't see him whatsoever.

I don't know how to convince my parents to at least let him come over to my house, which he used to be able to do.

We used to be able to date before the incident, which happened about a month ago.

He came over once after my parents found out, and they had a talk with him, so I thought things would be fine, but we broke our curfew (which is at 10pm) by 30 mins and now I don't know if I'll be able to see him until next school year!

What should I do? And are my parents right about keeping me away from him? I'm very confused :/

Sorry the question is so long :p

更新1:

This is exactly why I'm confused, everywhere I go, people are telling me two things; that it's normal, and you shouldn't strangle away your basic urges. And that everyone does it, and it's normal and good for your relationship. And then other people tell me that I'm dead wrong and that I've betrayed my parents. I personally don't feel bad about what I did with my boyfriend, we did this to refrain from actual sex, which I've told him I'm not ready for, and he accepts. My parents hardly let me leave the house since this happened, and printed the FB messages with the intent to show HIS parents. I was luckily able to find the papers and threw them away. Because in my opinion they were invading my privacy and using the papers as an excuse to ruin his parents impression of me.

更新2:

I've tried talking to them about it, and they just say they can't trust me and I won't see him as long as I live under their roof. I wish it were as simple as having a 'talk' with them. THEY won't listen to ME.

回答 (5)

[匿名]

2012-06-21 8:56 pm

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You are underage and living under your parents roof, so they have every right to tell you what you can and cannot do and that includes seeing your boyfriend or not. You have betrayed your parents trust and you have lied to your parents and they do not trust you anymore. You have by what you are doing given them every reason not to trust you. You are lucky they are letting you even speak to him on the phone which may also change if you continue to do things where they can't trust you, like lying to them, breaking your curfew and by seeing all the inappropriate things that you and your boyfriend are saying to each other. Do they even know that you are still talking to him on the phone, because if they don't they will eventually find out and you won't be able to do that either. There is nothing to be confused about. Think of it as if you were the parent and you had a child who betrayed your trust and lied to you and did things behind your back. Would you trust your child and let them do whatever they wanted to? I don't think so. You need to start listening to what your parents tell you that you can and cannot do and you need to gain their trust back which will take a long time to do. You can't always have whatever you want in life and you will learn that in the years to come. You are beginning to find that out the hard way. Never try to hide anything from your parents, never lie to your parents because they will find out one way or another and when they do, you will be the one to pay the price for it by having certain restrictions put on you. They have their reasons for keeping you away from your boyfriend. They want nothing but the best for you and to protect you and they see something about your boyfriend they don't want you to be exposed to and have every right to keep you away from him. Your parents are right.

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Arlumit

2017-01-16 1:38 pm

the most important is how your boyfriend and his parents think.

your parents are not them. most parents fear their daughters had already had intercourse with males. if it's freedom to F. what is the meaning and value of women. women should not have sex too early. some men are not good.

are you sure he is really nice to you?

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[匿名]

2017-01-16 1:27 pm

your parents fear you make love with your boyfriend and if you pregnant he may not want you. they are correct to worry. it's painful if you pregnant due to sex but the man is bad.

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[匿名]

2012-06-21 9:12 pm

your parents are being reasonable, they are only looking out for their little girl...
maybe sit down with them and have "the talk" let them know that you know about condoms, birth control and that you will be responsible when your with him... be open and honest with your parents and trust me, they will give you a little more freedom..

dont drown out your parent's point of view when you sit down and talk about this

GOOD LUCK

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[匿名]

2012-06-21 8:52 pm

I don't think your parents are being reasonable. Idk about your school but most teens are having sex by 16/17. And they expect you guys not to do anything? Your dating. Explain to them that he means a lot to you and they can't just keep you locked away from him for doing things teenagers do! That's rediculous

參考: Experience

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