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I love my boyfriend but lately he has been very stressed... and he seems to be taking it out on me by being cold and distant. I ask if I did something wrong and he says no. That school is frustrating for him and very difficult and he works too so that doesn't make it easier. I was trying to talk to him and he kept telling me Goodnight goodbye ttyl. I was not finished our discussion and than he randomly starts yelling at me "What part of leave me alone don't you get? Babe. Leave me alone! Stop. Just leave me alone. You are annoying me now and acting crazy. Leave me alone!!!! Go out with out with your friends go read a book do something just leave me alone. I am busy. I am stressed!"
I had no idea he had a temper... he wasn't screaming he just yelled and it scares me because I don't usually see him act like this. Why is he taking it out on me? I just want to be there for him and make things better for him... by communicating and talking to him but apparently that's not good. He asked why can't I just leave him alone and why I can't let him come to me when he feels better, he asked why I can't just leave him alone for a few days. What is his problem?? Please help. I just wanna make things better..
Why did my boyfriend yell at me and tell me to leave him alone?
2012-02-07 4:56 am
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2012-02-07 5:08 am
✔ 最佳答案
Because he likes to yell and he likes Greta Garbo... he wants to be alone. BTW... this really is not an ETIQUETTE question... but thanks for asking!Have a polite day.
Etiquette takes over where laws end.
2012-02-07 5:03 am
When someone repeatedly tells you goodbye, goodnight, and ttyl and you keep at them you are harassing them. Just reading this made me angry. He's exhausted and you don't let up then you whine that you're just trying to help him?
2012-02-07 5:12 am
What part of leave him alone did you not get!
You are ONLY thinking about yourself (that is not necessarily in a bad way). You have to realize that people handle stress in different ways and that they unwind in different ways.
He stated to you already to leave him alone yet you still kept nagging at him. I don't think he lost he lost his temper so much as he was annoyed that he already told you what was bothering him and had already ASKED you to leave him alone. Yet your IGNORED him and kept pestering him.
Sometimes when people are stressed they want to be left alone. Next time someone tells you to leave them alone then LISTEN to them.
You talk about communication, well part of communication is listening to what the person is saying not WHAT you want to hear.
I think when your boyfriend calms down you should apologize for not listening to him and not leaving him alone when he asked you. In doing this maybe he will apologize for raising his voice.
His problem was you did not respect him enough to listen to him in the first place. So do AS he asked you and let him come to you.
You are ONLY thinking about yourself (that is not necessarily in a bad way). You have to realize that people handle stress in different ways and that they unwind in different ways.
He stated to you already to leave him alone yet you still kept nagging at him. I don't think he lost he lost his temper so much as he was annoyed that he already told you what was bothering him and had already ASKED you to leave him alone. Yet your IGNORED him and kept pestering him.
Sometimes when people are stressed they want to be left alone. Next time someone tells you to leave them alone then LISTEN to them.
You talk about communication, well part of communication is listening to what the person is saying not WHAT you want to hear.
I think when your boyfriend calms down you should apologize for not listening to him and not leaving him alone when he asked you. In doing this maybe he will apologize for raising his voice.
His problem was you did not respect him enough to listen to him in the first place. So do AS he asked you and let him come to you.
2012-02-07 5:21 am
He is communicating to you what he wants, that is clear. He is being honest to you about his desires, he wants you to leave him alone. You either accept his communication, and leave him alone, or you don't. It is as simple as that. Sounds like you have no desire to leave him alone for a few days. Trust his word, trust that your relationship will be okay if you do what he asks. Or, keep pushing him and take the chance of loosing a boyfriend.
2012-02-07 4:57 am
Because he wants you to leave him alone.
2012-02-07 4:59 am
These are the times when a boy just wants to be left alone. I advise you to just send him a little gift with a note that says "I am sorry baby, tell me when you cooled of ;)". He will realize that you just wanted to help and just say sorry also.
2012-02-07 5:05 am
He got frustrated because he wanted to be left alone, and you wouldn't leave him alone.
I know that you were just trying to help, but men don't deal with things the way we do. When they're stressed, the LAST thing they want to do is "communicate" about it. They want to VEGETATE about it. They want to zone out, watch TV and not think about it. Or else they want to think about it on their own until they've solved the problem. If a guy wants his girlfriend to play therapist, TRUST ME, he will go to her and whine quite on his own, without prompting from her.
Therefore, the best thing you can do when your guy is stressed is just be like "That really sucks. Anything I can do to help?" and let him lead the way. If he says he needs to be left alone, then give him what he needs. He's not a girl friend....he's a BOYfriend. They think differently than we do.
I know that you were just trying to help, but men don't deal with things the way we do. When they're stressed, the LAST thing they want to do is "communicate" about it. They want to VEGETATE about it. They want to zone out, watch TV and not think about it. Or else they want to think about it on their own until they've solved the problem. If a guy wants his girlfriend to play therapist, TRUST ME, he will go to her and whine quite on his own, without prompting from her.
Therefore, the best thing you can do when your guy is stressed is just be like "That really sucks. Anything I can do to help?" and let him lead the way. If he says he needs to be left alone, then give him what he needs. He's not a girl friend....he's a BOYfriend. They think differently than we do.
2012-02-07 5:03 am
Give him some space, he is stressed and busy with school and work you bugging him about is just adding another stresser on top of all that. When you talk to him ask him whats going on, make yourself available for him to come to you when HE is ready.
He isnt mad at you or anything he just needs to get stuff done... especially when he tried to say bye so many times you definitely need to back off or you will become the problem.
He isnt mad at you or anything he just needs to get stuff done... especially when he tried to say bye so many times you definitely need to back off or you will become the problem.
2012-02-07 4:59 am
hes pregnant
2012-02-07 5:02 am
do u think it is a good idea to ask us what's going on with your bf?
we dont know your bf, how we gonna answer you...
we dont know your bf, how we gonna answer you...
2012-02-07 8:40 am
Um he wants to be left alone and ure repeatedly ignoring his signals and outright requests to be left alone
soooooo leave him alone for goodness sakes for at least a day! Preferably 2
when he's ready hell come to u - but DONT then continue to annoy him by asking him what's wrong
soooooo leave him alone for goodness sakes for at least a day! Preferably 2
when he's ready hell come to u - but DONT then continue to annoy him by asking him what's wrong
參考: Common sense
2012-02-07 7:47 am
You conveniently left out your side of the conversation...simply saying "I was trying to talk to him" isn't the whole story, and you know it...or...maybe you don't, and if not...that's part of the problem.
What you don't seem to realize is that you don't have magical powers...you can't bring someone out of a funk just because you want to, and pushing the issue is selfish. If you want to make things better...respect his feelings.
What you don't seem to realize is that you don't have magical powers...you can't bring someone out of a funk just because you want to, and pushing the issue is selfish. If you want to make things better...respect his feelings.
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