So I'm 19 and I'm not sure if I ever had a bf before. I know that sounds dumb, but there was this guy in high school and I'm not sure if he was my boyfriend or not.
First we were friends., but then one day he asked to give me a ride home, so i was like ok. When we got in the car he said I was cute and asked if he could kiss me so i agreed and we kissed. So then he told me he liked me and as he was dropping me off he was like hey don't tell anyone we're together now. That bothered me but I just wanted a bf so I said ok. So then he gave me a ride home from school several more times over the school year. He ended up driving to this parking garage near my school though and trying to get me to do sexual stuff with him in the back seat. I did end up doing some things cuz i was desperate and just wanted a bf. Later I found out he was making fun of me behind my back and calling a c*nt so I told him it was over between us. So now he refers to me as his ex girlfriend.
But I'm not sure. Does what I described count as real relationship or not. We never went out on a date but he said I was his gf, but I don't think he was. So I'm just wondering because when people ask me if i've ever had a bf i don't know whether to say no or yes.
Does this count as a boyfriend or not?
2010-10-29 6:38 am
回答 (12)
2010-10-29 7:02 am
✔ 最佳答案
OMG! been there, done this! Just tell ppl that you had friends but nothing long term. not that it's any of their business whether you had a bf or not. but, I really know what you are saying! OMG! this brings back so many memories!
im going with no. No sweetie, not a bf but definitely an asshole! he only wanted to use your for his pleasure! and the sad thing is that to cover his own ego with his friends he is saying you two were something you never was. not cool!
Sweetie, please let this go! if you don't ...... you will loose your ability to trust and/or believe anything a man tells you, even if it is the truth! from my own experience.....this has crippled my whole mentality towards men and relationships!
Never do anything out of desperation! Never! promise me that!
**** Bottom line, you would not need to ask this question ...... if he was! Sorry sweetie!
And there IS a great guy for you! Got mine now!
and the best thing is I told him all my past pain and he still didn't run away! lol! :)
Hold on, love coming at you and you won't ever question it, for it will be so real, you won't have to!
2010-10-29 6:43 am
Wow, what a douche bag. Nah, you two were never BF and GF. Just 1 time FB.
2016-12-28 2:40 am
ok actual the lady that spoke back this question first is an fool, this does not mean that your an merchandise till you like him and the sentiments you the two have for another equivalent a courting and not a friendship. Its rather significant which you come across out the way you experience approximately him. So what you went out and he stated he liked you and you kissed him and held his hand you're able to do this with a boy till now you actual advance into boyfriend and lady buddy, the suited be conscious to your concern is relationship, once you like him sufficient to make him your guy then your a pair.
2010-10-29 6:54 am
No, I wouldn't count that as a boyfriend. A boyfriend would imply being a friend, and friends don't ridicule you behind your back, or abuse your trust for their own sexual thrills.
2010-10-29 6:53 am
It is not an ideal relationship, but it is up to you to define what it meant to YOU. You don't have to depend on HIS definition. There are people who call themselves fiance's with no more than internet chat connecting them. IMO, you deserve to feel like you have some power in this situation, and you sound like you did not feel like someone with any input at the time. If it makes you feel more empowered to say, "I experimented with a loser, but I got wise," that is acceptable. If you feel stronger saying, "Yes, I had a boyfriend for a while, but I broke up with him," that is also fine.
2010-10-29 6:46 am
no he's not your true boyfriend. Maybe he just wanted to have sex with someone thats why he kissed you...and later on he wanted to mock you.
2010-10-29 6:43 am
Yeah that's a no. Sorry you got duped by a prick. In a more meta-answer fashion I will tell you to not worry over bf/gf thing, it's just a label. And no I'm not saying that from a high-schooler perspective nor a crotchety oldtimer.
2010-10-29 6:42 am
Sorry, but it sounds like he was just saying it to get in your pants. Guys are infamous for saying what they think you want to hear to get what they want. Just remember actions speak louder than words.
參考: Personal experience
2010-10-29 6:42 am
not really, even with boyfriends there is some degree of care behind it. he didnt care about you.
but if you want it to be, of course it can count if you wish
but if you want it to be, of course it can count if you wish
2010-10-29 6:44 am
how did you know he was making fun of you behind your back and calling a c*nt. you should not really tell him it was over between you two ask him if he was saying the truth. be straight forward.
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