Ok so I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. He has only told one person that I am his girlfriend. He has not told any family or friends about me because he does not want to upset them. He wont tell his friends that are girls cuz he says it would hurt their relationship and make things awkward. And he wont tell his family because he says they want him to be with his ex. He gets really mad when I try to talk to him about this and says that he will only tell them he has a girlfriend if directly asked. What should I do?
And i know he loves me and I really love him and want to stay with him, but this is just weird. I have never had a guy act like this about me meeting people.
Boyfriend keeping me a secret?
2010-07-16 2:28 am
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2010-07-16 2:35 am
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I should tell him he needs to tell people y'all are together, it sounds like hes giving you excuses while he can act as if he's single when you're not around so thats not even a relationshipBetter yet dump him, cuz you should be with a guy who wants everyone to know y'all are together. All my bfs have loved taking me out and flaunting that we were together thats what you need too(: he doesnt deserve you he shouldnt care if other people wont like it or whatever
2010-07-16 2:33 am
He doesn't love you enough to fight for you and he's not proud you are his girlfriend..He loves flirting with his girl friends and don't want them to know his in a relationship because they might go away..And if he is serious with you, he'll let you meet his family..Introduce you as his new lover and not his ex gf anymore.
2010-07-16 2:32 am
Does he really love you or are you fooling yourself into believing he does? Sometimes it's hard to see the truth when you want a lie so badly. It seems to me that he has no intention of letting others know he is unavailable. He could be holding his options open in case he comes across someone new and exciting. Do yourself a favor and get out as soon as possible before he has the chance to hurt you.
2010-07-16 2:31 am
It deffinitly wouldn't make things awkward between him and his other friends that are girls..He's probably flirting with them, And don't want them knowing he has a girl already. You can do a lot better than that.
2010-07-16 11:02 pm
You are only kidding yourself if you think you know he loves you. He doesn't and it's obvious or he wouldn't be keeping you a secret. When you love someone, really love them, you are not ashamed of it, you're proud and don't care who knows! Simple as that. This guy is using you, nothing more sweetie. Wake up.
2010-07-16 2:49 am
I hate to break it to you.. but that isn't love and he doesn't love you. When someone really and truly loves someone they wouldn't hide it from other people. He doesn't want to tell his friends that are girls because he is a player. He wants to keep his options open with them while having you as the 'mistress' basically. And you should have respect for yourself and tell him that he either needs to announce it or hit the road. Don't let him control you by letting him get mad and refusing to talk about something that is actually bothering you. If you were with someone who really cared they would take time out to hear your problems and work through them. And perhaps he isn't cheating on you now... but with the way things are it seems to be leading that way. If he won't tell people then leave him or you will end up really hurt by him.
參考: Years of experience and hurt.
2010-07-16 2:39 am
First off you've only been dating for three months, then you don't love one another because you hardly know each other. I've been dating the same guy for about four years and I am still learning new things about him all of the time. I think that if he honestly LIKED you as much as you think he does or he says he does, then he would tell his family and friends about you and he wouldn't care about what they think. You should be over any of his girl friends, and if he doesn't tell them about you it is because he is dating someone else behind your back. That's just the facts.
2010-07-16 2:35 am
wow. that's just the same situation happened to me before.
me and my bf has been dating for 3 months
before he was hiding it from everyone, whenever we saw someone walked pass, he just stopped holding my hands which really upset me
So i talked to him why he was being like an ***, and said is he ashame to be with me that he can't tell anyone? If he really likes me, he should let everyone knows. His real friends should be happy for him instead of being upset.
so he starts chagning and tell everyone
i think YOU shuld start telling everyone about your relationship with him
me and my bf has been dating for 3 months
before he was hiding it from everyone, whenever we saw someone walked pass, he just stopped holding my hands which really upset me
So i talked to him why he was being like an ***, and said is he ashame to be with me that he can't tell anyone? If he really likes me, he should let everyone knows. His real friends should be happy for him instead of being upset.
so he starts chagning and tell everyone
i think YOU shuld start telling everyone about your relationship with him
2010-07-16 2:35 am
I have been in the exact same position and all I can say is, get out! Your guy is either feeling embarrased, isn't that interested in you, or just isn't that interested in dating at all. Tell him that you deserve some guy that is proud to date you and is ready to yell it around town. Even though chances are you'll stay with him, you really deserve better and need to get out of the situation.
2010-07-16 2:35 am
im not going to say there is another girl but there is a chance but dont jump the gun. Try to ask him when or if u guys get really intimate he will be less tanse and may open up. and i bet u could get him to talk if u did him a favor if u know what im saying haha jk jk but honestly just slowly bring it up and tell him that ur not judging u just want to know why and if that is so much to ask then this realationship may not go on
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