點解會咁呢?
其實`最大問題係你在結婚前無好好想清楚婚後要點樣的生活,婆媳不和係從古到今最難解決的問題,講古仔成日都有話阿媽同老婆一齊跳海問你要救哪一個先啦?
如果你無乜獨立自主的性格,從小都樣樣由阿媽做主,聽晒佢話,出糧俾晒阿媽儲埋做老婆本,拍拖都要阿媽點頭至敢出街,總之係媽媽心中的乖乖寶貝仔的話,咁婚後就一定出現問題了!
因為阿媽覺得娶了媳婦之後,兒子對老婆好過自己就條氣唔順,自己從小湊大個仔,媳婦只係識個仔幾年而已,阿媽當然重要過老婆,點解個仔對老婆仲好過自己吖? 所以一睇見佢地親熱d就眼寃,一定要找出d野挑剔下先安樂!
如果你係懦弱怕事的男仔,通常會容易得到有主見的女仔歡心,因為你樣樣無乜所謂,拍拖行街去邊由佢話晒事,咁你老婆就以為搵到個聽講聽話好老公啦!
而且通常有主見的女仔係叻d,在家庭中父母都愛惜佢多d,好多時在家中乜都就慣晒佢,點知道結婚後先知道樣樣唔到佢話事,你乜都要問過阿媽,同你阿媽有乜唔係成日火星撞地球吖!
當然仔女結婚後最好就搬開住,兩公婆有乜爭執如果無老人家多多意見瞓醒就無事啦,間中假期同自己父母或者外父外母飲茶食飯,俾d零用錢你媽媽或者我媽媽,咁大家一定都相處得開開心心了!
如果你有爸爸最好媽媽同爸爸住,你們搬開住會少d爭吵,如果只有媽媽,可能你有實際困難唔可以搬遷留下媽媽孤零零,你想搞掂佢兩個惟有堅強忍耐d,如果佢地成日因小事就向你投訴,一於唔使理佢咁多,求其依依哦哦萛數,不過一定要時常單獨各自安慰下佢地,詳細d解釋番你的實際困難至得喎!
其實d女人搞咁多嘢主要都係想你關心佢重視佢唧,一於當佢地小朋友咁氹吓錫吓就得啦!
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I had a couple with the same situation as yours, Divorce is their ending. My advise, if your wife loves you, tell her to treat your mom with respect and love; don't argue or fight with your mom. Tell your wife, she needs to understand you. Your mom is old and it is hard for you to change your mom's mind her attitude .Your wife needs to respect and love your mom the same as she respects and loves her mom.
Say is easy but hard to do. Hope that you can persuade your wife to work on the relationship.
你話:你地成日吵吵吵吵吵閉,吵到今時今日仲要吵,你地系咪死都要面,你唔出聲,你都唔出聲咪得,系到煩,你再吵就唔認你做呀媽,你再吵就離婚,吵人大,你地仲吵就汁行理自已搬出去,要吵?吵唔到我就得,吵到就打你出去
2010-06-16 02:10:39 補充:
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