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I'd call you a feminist.
I'd also call you rather petty too.
You have a child with this man; you live with him; you struggle alongside him; but you won't take his name??
You're allowing your pride and vanity to rob your son of a father. Rather than joining with this man, you're allowing this little game of semantics to ruin your relationship and drive your man out of the home.
Pretty dumb.
1. Drop the name game. Take his name and join him in marriage. We men may be whipped and beaten by our women...but at least we can take some comfort in the knowledge that she's on our team. Take his damn name and prove yourself a capable woman through your actions.
2. Don't try to drive a wedge between him and your son. This is just destructive. Do you want to raise him on your own? Note I didn't say "Could you...". I said "Do you WANT to..."
3. YOU'RE the one who is making this guy miserable. He's with a woman who puts her own vanity ahead of her husband and child.
WHAT DECENT MAN WOULDN'T BE MISERABLE??
So knock it off.
Go plan for a small ceremony, and take his name and all the man that goes with it.
And drop the feminism. It's not 1990's anymore.
參考: Additional Note: Don't want to take his name? How about we throw out MORE marital traditions:
1. No ceremony. Just you, him, and a priest or Justice of the Peace.
2. No engagement ring. Doesn't really do anything, does it? And it costs a hell of a lot more than a change of name request.
3. No honeymoon. Just go back to your house and cook some dinner. No getting out of town and leaving the kid with the in laws for some romance. Just go home and try to catch the next episode of Dancing with the Stars.
4. No anniversary. It's just another day on the calendar.
5. No little signs that say "The Packersons", or "Larry and Sherri Hotlz" or "Welcome to the DePetrillo's House". Nuthin!
Just how many traditions are you looking to sink here?