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What should parents do when children fight among themselves
Fighting among children is a real challenge for parents. Hereunder are three things parents are advised to do when it occurs. We suggest parents to follow the first in all situations, and resort to the second and the third when it does not work.
1. Accepting:
Bickering or fighting is one of the ways children learn to deal with problems in life. They usually stop doing it when parents show no response to their behaviour as they learn that what they are doing is not drawing any attention. In the process, they can learn to explore more constructive alternatives to solve their problems. Do not forget to encourage them when they show the ability to dissolve a fighting situation. You may tell them "I am glad to see you're so nice to each other," or "I see you've got things right very well".
2. Staying away
Avoid playing the role as an onlooker to the fighting. If you find the fighting annoying, you may go to the bedroom or bathroom when they fight, then return to the scene quietly when it is over. But do remember to hold back your criticisms and avoid making counterproductive comments like "Can you see now! What's the fuss all about?".
3. Ring-fencing
You may tell the fighting children to go outisde the house. Pay attention to what and how you speak when you make this request. It should go in order like this:
(1)Tell them in a calm and firm tone, "if you keep on fighting, you must go ouside. Come back in when you are finished." Say it once and do not repeat.
(2)If they do not want to go outisde but keep on fighting, take them outside the house. Remember to do it decisively but without showing them you are angry.
(3)When you find yourself in a situation where you need to follow this advice, remember that silence is the key to make it work. Avoid saying unnecessary things.
2010-03-11 11:32:45 補充:
Fighting is unpleasant. When children fight, put them in a place where they cannot disturb others. Follow the above advice, and you will find the fighting over without you noticing it.
2010-03-11 11:32:56 補充:
Only in situations where dangerous or sharp objects are involved in a fight that parental intervention is necessary. In such cases, an angry and over-reacting parents will not help. You may just take away the dangerous objects from their hands quietly to make them understand it is not right.
2010-03-11 11:33:01 補充:
Talk to them about their dangerous behavour after a while or on the next day. An unemontional and sincere discussion will help them undestand their mistakes and change their behaviour.
(dispute主要用於國際間 / 法津上 / 權益上的紛爭, 用在孩子的拌嘴不適合. fighting 不單是動手打架, 也是吵嘴)