im a girl in 7th grade, 13 years old.
your average girl, i like to play on the computer, do makeup, shop, obsesses over self appearance etc.
i do gymnastics, & i figure skate.
i cant make friends, my mom doesnt get it she thinks its as easy as just getting someones number & calling them. i cant start up a converstation, i feel like if i say anything wrong they wont like me, and talk about me & reject me. i want friends, i hate the way i live, i hate everything about it.
i just want to be normal & go out with friends, hang out with people.
i have ADHD, i do not take medication for it.
sometimes i dont think i have ADHD, im not very hyperactive i mean..sometimes but, not really in school or outside. i usually am on the palace all day, i have friends on there. but maybe thats cause im not afraid that if they hate me, i can just change my name & start all over.
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i mean, i use to have friends. i use to be popular in elementry school from kindergarden to 3rd grade..
but i dont know what happened, i lost them.
would medication make me more social, less stupid?
idk what do to do anymore. i plan on a reinvention this summer, im going to try to reinvent myself, more out spoken & happier, prettier.
what can i do to help with my social skills? make me more funnier like 13 year olds girls these days? more sarcastic & witty? help me, please ):
i cant do this, help? D:?
2010-02-28 6:27 pm
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2010-02-28 6:34 pm
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You sound like a really cool person, I don't understand why you don't have friends.I don't think not being on medication has anything to do with it, I think that may be holding you back, a pyschological barrier maybe?
I think this is all down to shyness, so to help your social skills just talk to someone you like in your class or something. Just casually listen to their conversation and some how join in. Don't reinvent yourself too much though, you have to stay you otherwise it will start to feel like an act, and you don't want that. Just smile and find common interests with people. When you're skating, why don't you speak to girls your own age, compliment them about their skating or whatever.
I hope that helped, and I hope you make friends soon, you're just going through a weird and confused phase right now :)
2010-02-28 6:48 pm
i was like this last year i had just switched schools and i didn't know anyone. if you're a shy person, then you have to realize that you can't hide who you are and you need to be outgoing and find people who share your interests. it also helps if you get involved in stuff at school because those are people you would have things in common with. you also have to become more comfortable with how you look and that can give you a confidence boost. if you feel like you don't look good then you don't feel good. you say you do gymnastics and figure skate then those are probably some people that you have something in common with. you can't be afraid of what people think of who you are. if someone doesn't like you that's their problem and forget about them. it's not the end of the world if someone doesn't like you. once you start talking to some people and letting them get to know you that's when you can call them. if they don't call you then you need to take the iniciative. also don't try to be someone you're not, because eventually people will find out and then you'll be back where you started because people don't want to be friends with someone they can't trust.
i really hope this helps :)
i really hope this helps :)
2010-02-28 6:35 pm
you seem like the all American girl.
its good that you do all those things like figure skating and stuff.
about being more social try to tell your mom more of what you wrote.
try to get with a social expert and tell them what you are going through.
try to be more confident and more stronger.
you see like you can do that.
:)
good luck dear .
its good that you do all those things like figure skating and stuff.
about being more social try to tell your mom more of what you wrote.
try to get with a social expert and tell them what you are going through.
try to be more confident and more stronger.
you see like you can do that.
:)
good luck dear .
2010-02-28 6:31 pm
don't think like that
you don't need to take medication
i used to be like that too, i was so scared to start a conversation and everyone was in a group already and it was really hard for me to fit in
start with the people who don't have a lot of friends or not that poopular first
or just talk to the person who is sitting with u in class, start with "can i borrow a pencil." even if u have one. then just comment on the pencil. like "wow i like this pencil where did u get it/" and lead into a conversation
hope it helps
you don't need to take medication
i used to be like that too, i was so scared to start a conversation and everyone was in a group already and it was really hard for me to fit in
start with the people who don't have a lot of friends or not that poopular first
or just talk to the person who is sitting with u in class, start with "can i borrow a pencil." even if u have one. then just comment on the pencil. like "wow i like this pencil where did u get it/" and lead into a conversation
hope it helps
2010-02-28 6:31 pm
Just be yourself. I know that sounds cliche, but it's seriously the best thing you can do. You don't want to have to hide behind an act to make friends. Just try to be more outgoing; start conversations, talk to people. Have confidence.
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