有沒有人和我一樣？越是對人戒備越是會被人謀害？
2010-02-28 5:38 am
我有個特點就是心理面總是充滿了危機感，不論是對生活還是對人都有很深的危機感，在考試前我總是擔心考試考不好，但我想當未來的時候總是會想著最壞的結果。在一開始的時候，我這種危機感，的確對我有一點幫助，比如因為我有這種危機感，我會比較努力的讀書學習（因為我心裡很恐懼考試考不好）。但是我現在這種危機感，已經發展成對整個生活失去信心，看不到未來，我越是將周圍一切想的壞結果還是那樣的壞，我在進入大學前一直擔心學不好那些課，所以我加倍努力，可是結果我發覺我的信心很低會讓我學不好。我變的極度的銘感，只要有人說我學不好，我就會感覺真的做不好。在和人的關繫上，我因為過去被人欺負和嘲笑過，所以我心理總是懷疑別人是否對我真誠，就像一個警察在沒有找到真正的罪犯前總是會假定很多嫌疑犯可能是犯罪者，我由於對生活充滿了危機感，在我看來我會假定周圍很多人都會有可能的潛在謀害我的可能性，我曾經看到有兩個女孩子她們平時看上去關係非常非常的好，可是當其中一個不在的時候另一個就會對我說還有一個壞話，而且她有很多事情也故意不告訴那個人，所以當我看到這種情況的時候我就會想我周圍也肯定有很多人表面對我很好，其實從內心深處根本對我不真誠，我以前在一家飯店裡打工也看到了有一個女生表面上對另外一個非常友好，而背後卻會和我說她的壞話。我以前寢室裡的兩個人關係非常不好的時候，我卻一點點都看不出來，以為他們之間都很真誠，直到後來另一個告訴我他其實根本是不把另一個當做朋友。所以當我看到這些事情的時候，我更加加深我心理的不安全感，我心理面認為任何一個對我真誠的人都可能是假裝出來，只是我看不出來。我對人總是帶有強烈的猜疑心，甚至有時候我感覺我的心機會比女生還要重，所以我很孤獨基本上沒有朋友，因為我很難確認誰對我真誠。我的態度是過去我被人欺負和嘲笑過，所以基本上別人都不喜歡我，當我看到那些人在背後說別人壞話時候，我也可能被人這樣。可我越是這樣我被人背後謀害欺騙的越是多，我對人懷疑心心這麼重也絲毫保護不了我，反而更讓我被人孤立。不知道有沒有人和我一樣？
回答 (6)
2010-03-11 1:47 am
^__^ 年青人 人生中總有危機和不幸 將所有不幸和危機都化成預計之內 跟著勇住直前就無問題了^_^ 例如你想下成績不好 咁會有咩後果? 最多就不好lo = = 大不了讀多年 只要努力過就無憾了 讀大學讀不上又不會死概= = 只要努力後順其天命而行就ok^_________^ 和朋友相處也是 要勇於相處 就算比傷害又如何 ^^ 傷害了大不了絕交lo 人要勇於比傷害 才有新明天 朋友明白嗎? 人生不可能凡事如意 總有失敗總有挫折 如果怕失敗怕挫折 就不會有明天^^ 上吧!!!!!!!!!!
有咩可以找我^__________^
有咩可以找我^__________^
2010-03-09 11:30 pm
先問自己,
難道自己沒說人壞話嗎?
我實在跟您說由我中一到上一年 我就是像您這種人
中一至中三明明是人們興高采烈的時間
就是那種危機感 逼使我要去讀書
再加上我是單親家庭
又不是band1學生
而且前多年那個死人老豆在easter真的死掉
但因為這一切
我一定要讀書
我跟您說
我也感到這世界很假
但我想說的是-- 用自己力量改變身身邊的人
我自問自己非常有性格
人們做錯東西
我大大聲地在全班面前大聲呼"學"他
學校又是一堆8婆的所在地!
我最討厭女孩不能光明正大說人是非
那些女孩子說我穿衣,因為我不去旺角,只去尖沙咀
異類也異類也
或許您是男生, 不明白這一點
我也曾經被人欺負過,
在我中2的時侯
全班29位女生 13位男生
20位女生都在杯葛我
每個都是整天在背後說我壞話
我也是孤獨
那生女生整天說荒
別人卻信以為真
還要拿一篇我在網上打的文章print給全班看
詆毀我說那班20位女生的壞話
我整個中二都不斷哭
對, 人真的很假
那班20位女生 最後互相攻擊對方
當中有一位女生 最後更成為我的知己
那真的好! 我說的話, 她會懂
您要告訴給人聽自己是正義的人
我到了fb 光明正大
告訴那位女生聽,
當面鬧了她,
原來很多人響應-- 我才知道總要有人站出來
漸漸地我的行為感染到我的知己,
她很佩服
我不怕寂寞
最重要是伸張正義後那種痛快感
現在我是中5學生
當年20位女生當中有13位女生與我一班
她們全都知道我的事是被人詆毀
至於您談到真誠
我對人真誠
您不要期望人對您真誠
那麼您只是一種利益買賣
真誠是發自真心
不是想拿著數
要人對您好
我認為真誠是用來感動人
要人感到後悔自己做的錯事
感到內疚
那些不會內疚的人 連豬也不如
別要跟這些人做朋友
朋友可以分為泛泛之交
誰叫您一定要付出整副力量待一個芝麻綠豆的朋友
這樣只會您到虛偽!
泛泛之交點頭就好
我曾經問自己
為何人總要兜一個彎來敷衍別人
例如朋友的女朋友不漂亮,他問您我的女朋友漂亮嗎?
許多人都會答:靚爆鏡
這是虛偽嗎?
直率只會使身邊的人不快樂
應學會適當時做適當的事
我確實要鬧醒您!
您咁樣危機落去冇用,
個個都好似您咁,失敗就冇信心去再努力
咁就唔會有燈既發明
愛迪生,試左99次,都唔得. 佢都花左好多時間!!!!!!!!!!
真係人類既面都比您"掉"曬!!!!!
人地做朋友關您咩事?
做好自己就得!!
我就唔信呢個世界冇真誠既人?
係咁點解會有人恩恩愛愛成世
您可能會反駁我2個新人就有1個離婚
好假d愛--真係假愛
但係您有冇多角度好諗雖然有1個離婚.
但係另外一對新人真愛好持久!!!
到左而+我都好少同朋友一齊,
我都有d驚比人呃!
但係呃左又點?
您可以打佢?您最多係fb當面鬧佢
現在打小人都呼召人祝福那個人
以德報怨 令人內疚 就係我對壞人既手段
我比我男朋友出賣過,
但因為愛, 我信任他.
我人生只是很短暫
要痛苦過,才知道成功感是那麼喜悅
我諗您都大我好多年
我係最後一屆會考生
壓力真的很大
但現在沒有信心的話
將來想有信心都冇用
後悔都黎唔切
實會有好既朋友係您附近出現
2010-03-09 15:35:17 補充：
http://www.uwants.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=108
送比您去睇
睇一睇 會開心好多
難道自己沒說人壞話嗎?
我實在跟您說由我中一到上一年 我就是像您這種人
中一至中三明明是人們興高采烈的時間
就是那種危機感 逼使我要去讀書
再加上我是單親家庭
又不是band1學生
而且前多年那個死人老豆在easter真的死掉
但因為這一切
我一定要讀書
我跟您說
我也感到這世界很假
但我想說的是-- 用自己力量改變身身邊的人
我自問自己非常有性格
人們做錯東西
我大大聲地在全班面前大聲呼"學"他
學校又是一堆8婆的所在地!
我最討厭女孩不能光明正大說人是非
那些女孩子說我穿衣,因為我不去旺角,只去尖沙咀
異類也異類也
或許您是男生, 不明白這一點
我也曾經被人欺負過,
在我中2的時侯
全班29位女生 13位男生
20位女生都在杯葛我
每個都是整天在背後說我壞話
我也是孤獨
那生女生整天說荒
別人卻信以為真
還要拿一篇我在網上打的文章print給全班看
詆毀我說那班20位女生的壞話
我整個中二都不斷哭
對, 人真的很假
那班20位女生 最後互相攻擊對方
當中有一位女生 最後更成為我的知己
那真的好! 我說的話, 她會懂
您要告訴給人聽自己是正義的人
我到了fb 光明正大
告訴那位女生聽,
當面鬧了她,
原來很多人響應-- 我才知道總要有人站出來
漸漸地我的行為感染到我的知己,
她很佩服
我不怕寂寞
最重要是伸張正義後那種痛快感
現在我是中5學生
當年20位女生當中有13位女生與我一班
她們全都知道我的事是被人詆毀
至於您談到真誠
我對人真誠
您不要期望人對您真誠
那麼您只是一種利益買賣
真誠是發自真心
不是想拿著數
要人對您好
我認為真誠是用來感動人
要人感到後悔自己做的錯事
感到內疚
那些不會內疚的人 連豬也不如
別要跟這些人做朋友
朋友可以分為泛泛之交
誰叫您一定要付出整副力量待一個芝麻綠豆的朋友
這樣只會您到虛偽!
泛泛之交點頭就好
我曾經問自己
為何人總要兜一個彎來敷衍別人
例如朋友的女朋友不漂亮,他問您我的女朋友漂亮嗎?
許多人都會答:靚爆鏡
這是虛偽嗎?
直率只會使身邊的人不快樂
應學會適當時做適當的事
我確實要鬧醒您!
您咁樣危機落去冇用,
個個都好似您咁,失敗就冇信心去再努力
咁就唔會有燈既發明
愛迪生,試左99次,都唔得. 佢都花左好多時間!!!!!!!!!!
真係人類既面都比您"掉"曬!!!!!
人地做朋友關您咩事?
做好自己就得!!
我就唔信呢個世界冇真誠既人?
係咁點解會有人恩恩愛愛成世
您可能會反駁我2個新人就有1個離婚
好假d愛--真係假愛
但係您有冇多角度好諗雖然有1個離婚.
但係另外一對新人真愛好持久!!!
到左而+我都好少同朋友一齊,
我都有d驚比人呃!
但係呃左又點?
您可以打佢?您最多係fb當面鬧佢
現在打小人都呼召人祝福那個人
以德報怨 令人內疚 就係我對壞人既手段
我比我男朋友出賣過,
但因為愛, 我信任他.
我人生只是很短暫
要痛苦過,才知道成功感是那麼喜悅
我諗您都大我好多年
我係最後一屆會考生
壓力真的很大
但現在沒有信心的話
將來想有信心都冇用
後悔都黎唔切
實會有好既朋友係您附近出現
2010-03-09 15:35:17 補充：
http://www.uwants.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=108
送比您去睇
睇一睇 會開心好多
2010-03-07 3:24 am
我和你一樣
人愈大愈覺得身邊的人都很假, 很現實, 總愛佔人便宜找著數, 欺善怕惡
加上自卑心理, 害怕被人嘲笑與傷害, 不敢與人接觸
出來工作, 更感到世途險惡, 真假難分
變到自我孤立, 同時不合群也被人孤立
生活要過得快樂, 難道要成為細膩小人, 才不至於被人欺負?
還未過到自己良心
人愈大愈覺得身邊的人都很假, 很現實, 總愛佔人便宜找著數, 欺善怕惡
加上自卑心理, 害怕被人嘲笑與傷害, 不敢與人接觸
出來工作, 更感到世途險惡, 真假難分
變到自我孤立, 同時不合群也被人孤立
生活要過得快樂, 難道要成為細膩小人, 才不至於被人欺負?
還未過到自己良心
2010-03-02 6:48 am
Think positive.
I used to be a guy like you even though I think my case is less serious. Now I believe that 'be true to others and the others will be true to you'. I think that this is quite true, when you think that the world is simple, the world is. Being sensitive is good as you may be good at sensing changes in your mutual networks. However, trust is need to develop true friendship.
May be this is the reason why you are being isolated - you are too doubtful that you seems fake to the true people as you are too defensive. At the same time, you seems too infrangible to the fake people so they try to spread rumors about you to shatter your defense. Yes, your doubts have protected you from primary attacks, but they also block you from befriending the others.
Don't you agree that being doubtful is tiresome? people and true friendship will be attracted as a result. Be good to all of the people, be just, no one will be able to attack you with evil minds. True friends and your faith will help you.
That's one of the reasons why adults want to reverse the aging process to be a child...Being naive is good to an extent as you are out of the fakeness even if you know nothing about it.
I know that this is difficult, I tried but I failed. I find myself to be more doubtful and fake. I cannot take of my mask and even my morality declined. That's why I am trying to influence others with moral. I am still trying to loosen my armour and uphold my conscience. Although I seem to have many friends, I have very few friends to share my burden. I hope that I can achieve the level that I would not be afraid of being attacked. I hope that you can try. If you cannot be true to others (without defense), as least be true to yourself.
2010-03-01 22:49:09 補充：
At last, actually there is an utmost method to solve the problem if you really want to change. Learn to enjoy loneliness, dedicate your life to art. Art cannot be fake to you, right? You can express your feelings through art, express your innermost through art to heal your psychological trauma.
2010-03-01 22:49:29 補充：
If you really want to enjoy companion in stead of loneliness, believe in God. Although I an not a Christian or of any religion, I admit that it helps. May be having a religion will make you feel better as you will have an everlasting companion - God.
2010-03-01 22:49:48 補充：
Shall we be friends? Although I am also sort of fake, and we may have generation gaps (I am still in Junior Secondary), having companions is definitely better on the way of life. Email me if you want to.
(Sorry for my poor English skills)
I used to be a guy like you even though I think my case is less serious. Now I believe that 'be true to others and the others will be true to you'. I think that this is quite true, when you think that the world is simple, the world is. Being sensitive is good as you may be good at sensing changes in your mutual networks. However, trust is need to develop true friendship.
May be this is the reason why you are being isolated - you are too doubtful that you seems fake to the true people as you are too defensive. At the same time, you seems too infrangible to the fake people so they try to spread rumors about you to shatter your defense. Yes, your doubts have protected you from primary attacks, but they also block you from befriending the others.
Don't you agree that being doubtful is tiresome? people and true friendship will be attracted as a result. Be good to all of the people, be just, no one will be able to attack you with evil minds. True friends and your faith will help you.
That's one of the reasons why adults want to reverse the aging process to be a child...Being naive is good to an extent as you are out of the fakeness even if you know nothing about it.
I know that this is difficult, I tried but I failed. I find myself to be more doubtful and fake. I cannot take of my mask and even my morality declined. That's why I am trying to influence others with moral. I am still trying to loosen my armour and uphold my conscience. Although I seem to have many friends, I have very few friends to share my burden. I hope that I can achieve the level that I would not be afraid of being attacked. I hope that you can try. If you cannot be true to others (without defense), as least be true to yourself.
2010-03-01 22:49:09 補充：
At last, actually there is an utmost method to solve the problem if you really want to change. Learn to enjoy loneliness, dedicate your life to art. Art cannot be fake to you, right? You can express your feelings through art, express your innermost through art to heal your psychological trauma.
2010-03-01 22:49:29 補充：
If you really want to enjoy companion in stead of loneliness, believe in God. Although I an not a Christian or of any religion, I admit that it helps. May be having a religion will make you feel better as you will have an everlasting companion - God.
2010-03-01 22:49:48 補充：
Shall we be friends? Although I am also sort of fake, and we may have generation gaps (I am still in Junior Secondary), having companions is definitely better on the way of life. Email me if you want to.
(Sorry for my poor English skills)
2010-03-01 5:18 am
2010-02-28 5:59 am
just think positive,try to forgive it.
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