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There are a lot of good reasons to not look at porn but I don't think this is a good one. Clearly the problem is with you here. You say you used to look at porn as well so the only problem I can see you having with your fiancé is that he watches other people have sex and it turns him on (I'm assuming).
You have to realise that porn is a fantasy, it's not the way real people have sex and I'll bet that your fiancé probably wouldn't even be comfortable doing the kind of things that he watches. I'm sure he wouldn't want to subjugate you to the type of humiliation common in most porn so I wouldn't feel inadequate.
When watching porn the viewer takes on the role of a voyeur, experiencing the sexual acts vicariously and safely through the video or photos. Even when shot from first person the viewer feels safe knowing it isn't really happening to him/her. It is not an authentic sexual experience nor is it meant to be, so it doesn't replace actual real life sex.
To overcome the problem you have with your fiancés porn watching I suggest you do one of the following:
(i) Confront him and tell him you want him to stop. This may not be the best approach because as I've remarked, your reasons for doing so are jealous and paranoid. However if it's something you can't get over, best to make your problem known and out in the open. Then you can discuss it.
(ii) Get back into porn yourself, perhaps watch porn with him. It could be a kind of nice thing you could do together to get each other in the mood.
(iii) Get over it in general by realising it is not necessarily destructive to your relationship. That said, if it is sadistic/violent/etc. porn he is watching or if he watches very frequently it could be a problem.
In any case discussing it with him is the best course of action. Approach him having thought about it and in a calm state of mind. Do not let things like this get in the way of what I hope is an otherwise happy relationship. Peace