Trying to get my son home?

I'm not saying this to be mean, but maybe he just needs to get away from you to clear his mind and since he knows somebody there that he can use as an anchor of some sort, he went there since he has nowhere else to go.

By a certain age, people know they want to be in control of their own life, and have certain freedoms. Once a "mental illness" has been diagnosed, they automatically lose a lot of their freedom to make their own choices, sending them in a down spiral of hopelessness for their future. You, as their caretaker, become a constant reminder of that bleak future, and the feeling they will never be their own boss.

Having goals, motivation, and a plan for one's future is critical to emotional health. Feeling indebted to another, or dependent upon another can take away the feeling of being able to create one's own goals, and also deletes the motivation to achieve those goals - they don't want to have to "run everything" by their handler. They want freedom.

Can't he get into a college of some sort? Is there any way for him to go away to school?

My heart is going out to you and your loved ones. group counseling will do all nicely. it truly is a annoying element of attain and take care of. i be attentive to first hand with my son. I made the attempt yet no one else might do it. He struggles with some matters today. yet has finished better over the years. each little thing takes time and it is not as worry-free as we prefer. whilst asking questions after awhile you will study how long it truly is going to take. it truly is considerable that the excellent relatives is in contact. Your son would be scared and uncomfortable whilst he first comes lower back. Calm is the terrific interior the domicile. good success and that i wish all is nice .

It sounds complicated and you are frustrated because you don't have control. The important thing is to let him know you love him and will help him in any way possible when he is ready. This will not be solved by legal matters but by the power of God. Have trust and faith and let him now you are there for him.

Just work on suing the system that failed you and him, if something should happen. Sue them to the ground for the loopholes of it all.

did you know why he wants to stay there? is it because of culture, freedom, weather or what?
i think you should start persuading him by asking what is interesting over there. try finding out what is in his mind, things will get easier when you know the reason...

Sad story
hope it gets better for you

try going to him and convincing him or bribe him back home

http://www.bpkids.org/site/PageServer?pagename=lrn_juvenile&printer_friendly=1 Please read this article for some ideas for help with your situation. Not all of these sections may apply to your case, but maybe some of the information does. Good luck to you.