I don't want to date and no one really understands why...?

2009-11-30 4:03 am
I'm fifteen. I decided I don't want to date. Just until I'm ready.

The thing is, I tell guys that. I told one that last night at a party, then later on he mentioned me "flirting" with him and said he liked me. I mean, thats cool, but I already told him I don't date.

I just don't like it. To be truthful, I'm still hurt about this other guy. He was my first kiss. We were off and on for a while because he lived an hour away, then he broke up with me for good. He just cut me off... and less than two weeks later he likes another girl. Thank you myspace, lol!

Its been about three or four weeks since then. My friends keep telling me to "just get over him" because I guess theyre annoyed with me not wanting to date like they do, but I can't help it. He's everything I wanted in a guy.

I mean, I'm not torn up about it anymore. I'm fine. I just don't want to start dating yet.
I flirt too much with guys with out realizing it, I get attached, I feel uncomfortable being with just one guy, and change my mind too much... and I just havent found the right guy yet i guess.

I just know I'm not ready. I can't even tell my parents. I just let them think I like guys because everytime I try to say "I don't date," they don't seem to understand.

I'm tired of explaining it to people. I can't tell them its because I'm not over a guy. I just let them think it's a rule I live by.

I'm kind of afraid that by the time I do find a guy I really like, all my friends will get mad at me because I keep saying "I dont date".

What should I do??? How should I explain it so people will understand? How can I make it more clear to people so I don't have confusions about me liking them anymore?

thanks!

回答 (6)

2009-11-30 4:11 am
✔ 最佳答案
Just tell them that it's a personal choice you've decided to make until you're a little more mature, because you believe dating should be special. Or say you're saving yourself.
Make up something that they would understand, even if it's not true.
And if they decide to get angry at you for your beliefs, they aren't your friends anyway. I know how you feel, I believe, and it's not always easy to explain. Just having no urge to particularly date for a while.
You aren't hurt or anything, but dating just seems.. You know, unappealing at the moment.
I don't think you should have to explain yourself.
I always told everyone that the guys I knew were too stupid and immature for me to have any interest in. That was partially true, anyway. Plenty of guys I loved to death as friends, though.
2009-11-30 12:09 pm
Ok easy the questions arent ever gonna stop u can explain it to someone and the next guy/girl gonna ask why also. Her a trick I know girls use that does work say you are already taken make up some details and stick to em where he live name etc any question they might ask be prepared 2 answer most of the time tho the person should back off if not be ready with the questions and your answers..
You kno this advice was good so 10 points
2009-11-30 12:09 pm
It's been about 4 weeks you said. Give yourself some time before any drastic decisions.
2009-11-30 12:08 pm
why dont you try giving him a chance?
2009-11-30 12:07 pm
guys do not understand because guys are stupid LOL

don't worry about other people, just do your thing :) who cares if they don't understand, no need to try and explain lol
i respect you for doing this :)
2009-11-30 12:06 pm
TMI

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