What did he mean by that remark?

I would ask why does sweet honey need to change.
It sounds like what you need is better self esteem. And yes,
you can do something about that without asking anyone for feedback.
Since you were a toddler you have been programmed to think
in certain ways. Your family, school and church, and certainly
TV have influenced your self image.
You can find and retrain that youth within. It will take some time and efforts to change old thinking habits, but it can be done and it is worth it.

It sounds like your friend is saying you'll be happy, because you wont have any other person(s) personal opinion to influence your own feelings towards the topic of reference. So, the friend is saying, that without the opinions of others around you, you'll be happy with yourself because you like the decision, and will continue to do so, untill you gather other opinions from the people around you, which may, and most likely will, influence your feelings towards the topic of reference. I hope i've helped.

I think he means if you don't ask for anyones opinion on you and what you do then you'll be happy because you'll be doing what you think is right?
God that doesn't make sense.
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