because your expectation is high , you want a perfect family as idealistic but in reality you couldnt achieve it , so you feel depress
the way i want to point out for you is your expectation for a good family is just want to show off infront of people or you really want to have a happy family and understand each other and care other
sometime you care too much how other people see you and forget what your family really needs, just relax and let go the control everyone in the family need some private space but that doesnt mean no communication ........ people do choose their own way but just want a family member to listen to them to understand them , if you have opinion to them no problem , but dont force people to your way , no matter how smart you are , because the way is good to you doesnt mean is good to them , the key is balance and mutalunderstand ........