My fiance was my dream man when we met. What happened?
2009-06-11 7:31 am
The first month we were dating, he was everything I ever wanted in a man. He was attentive, affectionate, wanted to go places with me, he rubbed my head until my headache went away, he even would get me water and cook dinner! I was in heaven and thought I met an incredible man! Then it all changed VERY suddenly. All of a sudden he expects me to serve him and get him a beer, cook and clean and women are beneath men. He isn't as affectionate and is lousy in bed when he used to be terrific. I feel betrayed. What happened to the man I met? He made himself out to be something he's not. (What's even worse, I stayed with him for 4 years hoping he would change and the "real" man I met would come back.)
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2009-06-11 7:42 am
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Amy. Amy. Amy. Welcome to the real world. People always put their best foot forward in the beginning. Women included. However, over time people become complacent and begin to take things for granted. What you have to realize is that the man your are experiencing now is indeed THE REAL MAN and the man you dating in the beginning was just a very good actor. The good thing for you is that you found these things out before the two of you actually got married. Marriage is for better or for worse and it is doing "The Worse" when true love is really tested. Peace and God bless.
2009-06-11 7:35 am
The "real" man you met was just a front.. People tend to make themselves out to be someone else, and once they've reeled the person they want in, they show their true colors.
2009-06-11 7:41 am
Wow! You're telling my life story. I fell in love with that man 5 years ago and still haven't been able to straighten him back out. My theory is this: he found your weak spot.
參考: I've been there, too.
2009-06-11 7:37 am
The good news is he's only your fiance and you haven't married him. He was doing that to make you fall for him and then his true colors came out. Hun, please walk away from this relationship if how he has acted for FOUR years isn't what you want. You can find a man that really is attentive, caring, and great to you in general. Don't settle for less than you deserve. I know it hurts to walk away after investing so much time and effort, but I think for your well being you should.
參考: me
2009-06-11 7:35 am
Hes a con man...get out and quick.
WHO ARE THE DOUCHEBAGS giving all the answers a low rating?
If you have something to contribute, speak - do you want us to say that hes a good guy and she should stay with him?
WHO ARE THE DOUCHEBAGS giving all the answers a low rating?
If you have something to contribute, speak - do you want us to say that hes a good guy and she should stay with him?
2009-06-11 8:03 am
Oh yes! He was able to carry of the Prince Charming act long enough for you to fall for him and accept his proposal of marriage. Then it was like, "Now, I've got the girl, I can just be my old self again". He sounds so smug, selfish, ignorant and spoilt. Do yourself a favour, girl, and give him back that ring and slam that door on this part of your life behind you. You deserve and can get so much better in your life. It's way too short to waste on a jerk like this. Good luck. -:)
參考: Reminds me of a "Mummy's boy" I was mixed up with many years ago. When I saw the signs, I was outta there like a bat outta hell....lol!
2009-06-11 7:34 pm
When men get what they have focused on part of their brain shuts down. MRI studies show this. Also, he could have been faking you out until you got hooked and then reverted back to what he really is. A friend of mine found the perfect guy and they got married. He turned Jeckyl and Hyde on the way to the airport on their honeymoon.
2009-06-11 7:39 am
He changes his love and feelings towards you. That's why he's not the same man when you first met him.
2009-06-11 7:36 am
Just like almost everyone in here.........
you both succumbed to BAD RELATIONSHIP SKILLS.
.......or LACK of good relationship skills....
which could have kept the good behaviors that you had in the begining and prevented the bad behaviors from SUDDENLY creeping into the relationship.
If you both KNEW some good relationship skills, you could have confronted and stopped the bad stuff from SUDDENLY entering your loving union.
re: What happened to the man I met?
........This has NOTHING TO DO WITH 'TRUE COLORS'!! He just slipped down into bad behavior because he did not KNOW HOW to keep up the good behavior and probably never noticed the difference
and you had no idea what to do about him or your self as it got worse and worse.
Wanna learn how...............?
you both succumbed to BAD RELATIONSHIP SKILLS.
.......or LACK of good relationship skills....
which could have kept the good behaviors that you had in the begining and prevented the bad behaviors from SUDDENLY creeping into the relationship.
If you both KNEW some good relationship skills, you could have confronted and stopped the bad stuff from SUDDENLY entering your loving union.
re: What happened to the man I met?
........This has NOTHING TO DO WITH 'TRUE COLORS'!! He just slipped down into bad behavior because he did not KNOW HOW to keep up the good behavior and probably never noticed the difference
and you had no idea what to do about him or your self as it got worse and worse.
Wanna learn how...............?
參考: relationship tips
2009-06-11 7:36 am
Well i hope you don't marry him. He was only a good person for a month. What made you even get engaged?
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