Parents make picky eaters by assuming their kids won't eat things. You really should be making meals to fit your taste and your husband's taste. Putting it out on the table and your kids will see that that is what is available and they will find favorites. I would just avoid highly hot and spicy food. But here's some ideas.
Also, you're not trying to get them to eat just anything. The purpose of a meal is some enjoyment but the main purpose is to fuel their growing bodies with good things so their developing organs and bones and immune system are strong.
Feed them good stuff!
meal 1:
Rice and lentils--I throw in things I like and I don't use cheese but here's a similar recipe to what I do:
http://www.recipezaar.com/Brown-Rice-and-Lentil-Casserole-74629
Serve with some cooked broccoli and apple slices
head of broccoli or bag of frozen broccoli
apples
bag of dry lentils
box or bag of brown rice
broth-either canned or boxed or dry
herbs and spices
optional cheese
meal 2:
homemade pancakes with sliced oranges or other fruit you all like
basic pancake recipe(you can add ground flax seed or wheat germ for extra healthiness)
2 Cups all purpose flour(unbleached)
2 TBL sugar
2 teas baking powder
1/2 teas salt
1/2 teas baking soda
1 egg
3 tbl melted butter
2 Cups buttermilk
2 teaspoons canola oil
whisk dry ingredients together in one bowl. Whisk wet ingredients in another bowl. Pour wet ingredients into dry and mix for a very short time just until most lumps are gone. If you overmix your pancakes will be tough. Lightly oil a pan that was heated over medium heat or if it's an electric giddle use 325*. spread batter down and gently form into a circle shape or any shape that tickles you. I serve with agave nectar or a berry compote that I make up quickly.
For your kids, try to avoid heavy pancake syrups. You do not want to over sugar them and get them hyper and cranky. Agave nectar is delicious and should not give them a sugar rush.
Agave nectar(my shoprite sells it in the natural section)
flour
baking powder and soda
buttermilk
fruit of choice
Meal 3:
Cooked barley--very mild tasting healthy grain served with meatballs or chicken or tofu and carrot coins. Tofu is mild and even bland tasting and my kids always loved it. I loved it because it's low in fat and high in protein.
Carrot coins can be made simple or fancy, sugary or buttery or plain. Look up recipes and find one that fits your tastes. Carrots are usually cheap and they are healthy and kids usually love the coins. I usually cook peeled sliced carrots in a small amount of water or broth til almost done, then I add some butter, salt and honey or agave nectar or even brown sugar and let the carrots finish cooking.
protein source of choice
barley(either in a box or a bag)
carrots
meal 4:
whole wheat pasta with tomato sauce and cooked spinach(or broccoli or zuchini, etc) on the side.
I used to feel bad buying whole wheat pasta because I assumed the family didn't like it as much as the white until they let me know that they loved the whole wheat so much more! You can buy prepared sauce or you can buy a can of crushed tomatoes. Saute crushed or minced garlic in olive oil, add about 1 teaspoon of oregano and the can of crushed tomatoes. Simmer about 15-20 min and add salt pepper, basil and a bit of sweetener(about a 1/2 teaspoon)
whole wheat pasta
can of crushed tomatoes
garlic
herbs
spinach or other healthy veggie(buy frozen or fresh for best nutrition)
parmesan cheese and garlic bread or salad is always good here too
Whatever you choose, just remember, you don't want your kids sitting at their prom or their wedding and insisting they only eat mac and cheese!! :)