How can i relax without the use of alcohol?

I used to be the same way! Back at my high school dances my friends would drag me onto the dance floor and i'd just stand there looking like an idiot. I was very shy and very self-conscious and had low self-esteem.
Even if you don't drink, participating in the drinking games is a good way to build confidence because you get to really know the people you play with. You learn their names, and as they get more drunk, they'll get more friendly with you.
And as for dancing, just move your hips! No once cares if you're good or not, but you'll look a heck of a lot better if you're moving than if you're just standing in the midst of everyone not doing anything. Put a smile on and make yourself seem approachable. When people come up to you and try to talk, don't give them one word answers. Smile, laugh, and give detailed answers back to them. People like someone they can open up to. If you're like this, then people aren't going to judge you. They will judge you if you're just standing in the corner, not talking to anyone, looking like you want to leave. If you're with your boyfriend, stick with him! And speaking of your boyfriend, if he's your boyfriend there's no way you should feel self conscious around him. He's supposed to be your lover and best friend. He most likely thinks you're the most beautiful, sexiest little lady ever. And if you kiss him when you don't normally instigate it, he's gonna like how you're initiating an intimate moment. Don't ever think your boyfriend is going to reject your kiss. (well, maybe if a big game is on if he's in to sports...) but if he's gonna reject you, then he's not the right guy for you anyways.
Just take a deep breath, tell yourself you're an amazing, beautiful person, and anyone would be lucky to know you. Kiss your boyfriend all the time - passionately, and open up and be friendly to people you meet at parties.
Hope this helps! I've come a long way since my shy days. Every once in a while it comes back, but for the most part I've become the life of the party!

umm ok buddy you cant spell CONSCIOUS either so i suggest you shut up. as for the question... well drinking helps build confidence but dont rely on it.. it only leads to trouble.

You can try fizzy drinks such as Pepsi etc. Carbonated drinks are linked to hypersensitivity.

Best of all, I think you should 'train' your self confidence rather than relying on drinks.

Look at yourself on the mirror and smile. Breathe in and out whenever you're nervous. It helps.

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When I go on holiday and have to fly I get very nervous but don't want to drink alcohol. I tried something called 'Kalms' (available at most chemists). They are herbal and really do seem to take the edge off tense situations. I take them the night before a potentially nerve racking experience and another two when I get up. They don't make you sleepy but do help you relax.

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It is all in your head, others do not see you as you see yourself.

I don't know how far your anxiety goes but I had a lot of trouble with anxiety with similar or MORE intense feelings. Try talking to a doctor about your anxiety. I was prescribed some medication for anxiety, and it pretty much leveled my playing field. It took the edge off most situations. I don't agree with the use of medication just because, but seek a doctors attention and opinion. Sometimes these "feelings" are more chemical than feelings, and there is help out there.

first of all, if you take a bite of an apple or any fruit , your breath will be ok, so kissing becomes a pleasure, relax into it. there was a book in the 60s that i used called" turning on without drugs" that helped me.atparties go with the intention of chatting to people about themselves, everyone loves to talk about themselves, but you must be genuine as well, which means you must become interested in other people, which will take you out of yourself.yoga can help,another famous book was "how to win friends and influence people"by norman vincent peale, full of good advice<although i think he commited suicide>. i also think that if you eat in moderation it will give you more energy which will increase your confidence.remember alcohol is a very dangerous drug for just the affects tou mention , but again use it in moderation, once the buzz starts drink water or coke etc until you feel like another drink , i havent had a hangover in 30 yrs using this system and bi drink every night good luck