我應該點去教細佬???

2009-04-11 9:30 pm
琴日,我仲系北京
但個日細佬帶左個女仔返來
爸爸返來後見到

媽媽好擔心,因為媽媽擔心15歲既細佬就學人拍拖,依加仲帶埋翻屋企,仲唔知做乜(因為細佬真系幾壞下,所以會令人擔心好多)

阿媽叫我教下距, 我真系唔知點教好,
我問距系米帶左個女仔返來,
距話系,
我問:帶返來做咩?
距話: 小學同學,比返d野距,上來坐下

跟住我就話: 朋友上來無問題,但頭腦清醒就得了(我嘗試暗示)
就甘就完了

但我心仲系擔心
我應該點教距先聽呢??????
更新1:

因為我唔肯定距系米搞埋d甘既野阿嘛 況且,距如果真系朋友聚舊,我甘直接米會傷害左距囉

回答 (4)

2009-04-11 10:49 pm
✔ 最佳答案
首先 , 你必須要有耐心睇晒我比你嘅文章 , 如果唔係 , 你唔需要再問 , 因為 , 冇人會比到答案你 。因為 , 呢個只可以係令你對此事上嘅一d啟發 , 同埋比你睇完之後有所改觀同去為你細佬嘅事想辦法 !!

因為我必須要你面對自己 , 了解別人 , 你才能找到最後嘅
""答案""

hm....你真係一個好大佬呀 , 值得一讚 , 因為你呢個問題 , 對於外人來講 , 根本好難介入 , 因為家家有本難念的經 , 況且清官難審家庭事 ..... 不過 , 我仍可以比少少意見比你 , 希望幫到你。

緊記 , 呢個係一個家庭 , 及個人關系嘅問題 , 所要嘅心法就係必須要與當事人有同理心 , 即係話 , 你有幾明白你細佬嘅內心世界 !!

而家好多人都有"隔代溝通艱難症" , 簡稱"代溝" , 症狀就係 , 對家人甚少關心 , 很多時只會得閒問幾句 , 只係想知道吓個家人做乜而己 , 語氣多數都帶有一點呼喝性質 , 感覺冷漠 , 個人感覺就好似有點被遺棄 , 同埋被忽視等等。

咁當事人會覺得點呀 ? ~~應你一句咪算囉 ! 如果你再問多句 , 就會覺得你好煩 , 呢d都係家庭"代溝"嘅形成 。 所帶來嘅後果往往會好嚴重 , 因為咁會演變成自我中心強 , 反叛。 既然家人對自己都漠不關心 , 唔明白我係點 , 咁我亦都唔需要理你咁多 , 自己做自己就可以 , 總之只要搵到自己嘅開心 , 同埋被其他人認同就得 !!

咁好la , 講咗咁耐 , 其實係好想你哋作為人哋嘅家長 , 必須要知道以上嘅原因 , 解開咗自己嘅心結 , 然後喺態度上你先會有所改變 , 因為唔係乜嘢都係理所當然 , 唔係話我係你嘅後輩 , 或者係你嘅細佬就一定要聽你講 , 因為 , 要記住 , "人"係一個獨立個體 , 當喺成長階段中去到自己當成自己係一個大人嘅時候 ,

"尊重"呢兩個大字 , 係每個人都好重視 , 因為你尊重我 , 我先會尊重返你 , 你肯聽我講嘢 , 我先會接納你嘅意見 , 人就係咁奇妙嘅。

加上 , 而家嘅青少年 , 好多喺生理上嘅成長速度都比我哋以前嗰幾輩快好多 , 所以對於異性嘅好奇係有好大嘅好奇心 , 況且 , 對方所付出嘅關心仲要比你哋任何一個家庭成員為多 , 所以 , 喺你細佬而家呢個階段嚟講係好正常 , 然而 , 我明白你作為大佬或長輩嘅心態係點 , 因為你唔想你細佬做出一d不負責任嘅行 , 係咪 !? 更唔想搞出一個"大肚"嘅病況 , 因為咁會引致好嚴重嘅後果 , 如兩家人嘅問題啦 , 兩個未成年嘅友仔將來點可以投身社會啦 , 甚致乎係經濟問題 , 等等....

ok , ok , 我完全明白 , 問題係 , 你細佬唔明 , 亦都未有想到長遠嘅後果同責任。

但問題係 , 點解你細佬會有d咁嘅問題呢 , 咁就要睇返 , 你哋平時嘅家庭活動係點 la , 所以 , 你由而家起要有所改變。

包括從"語氣" , "心態" , "架子" , 甚致 , 必須要以朋友嘅身份去關心佢 , 因為當你將上述嘅情況改變一下 , 我保證你細佬會對你嘅感覺有所不同 , 你要學會鈴聽 , 即係佢每講一d嘢嘅時候 , 特別係想同你講嘅時候 , 一定會有箇中念意 , 你一定要細心去聽 , 揣摩佢比你嘅意思 , 之後就係溝通嘅開始 , 你要比意見 , 但千其唔好係命令式 , 因為人係好憎人命令佢嘅 , 包括你都係 , 你要用一d個人嘅經驗同個案來分享比佢聽 , 關鍵係 , 你要講到你都好似同佢身歷其中一樣 , 達致到共鳴感 , 咁佢先會將你嘅說話聽入耳 , 如果唔係 , 你永遠都唔會講得通一個抱有牛脾氣嘅男子漢。

嗯 , 我嘅文章到此完 , 希望幫到你 , 如果你仍想研究一下 , 你email我 , 我會盡快回覆。

祝你哋都開開心心咁成長 , 快快樂樂地做人 , 希望幫到你啦 ^_^

2009-04-11 14:56:16 補充:
Sorry , 原來你係女來的 , 唔好意思 , 一直都當咗你係大佬 , 哈哈 ~
嗯 , 甚實上面嘅朋友都講咗一般人會講嘅嘢 , 但緊記係心法 , 放鬆d啦 , 即使真係拍拖都冇問題 , 最緊要係佢能明白到當中嘅責任 , 價值觀 , 同埋點去面對將來 ... 咁自自然然 , 即使你唔話佢 , 佢都識得點去處理 , 因為佢係時候要學習面對責任同代價 ~
參考: 自己意見, 自己
2009-04-11 10:07 pm
You should not get panic when your brother has brought somebody home without your presence. Do not think that they will do something immoral.
Be fair and talk to him calmy that you & your parents expect him to concetrate in his study and stays on the right track as he is only 15. Your parents worry that he may make mistakes of having a firl friend at such young age. It is OK to have friends, whom we play with and talk to each other.
If he likes to invite somebody home, please do let your parents know in advance so they can prepare food for them. Tell him dont be shy to let your parents know if he would like to invite friends to your house.
Also discuss with him about news of underage sex whenever there is any happening and see his response. You can also give him some correct attitude towards relationship between boys and girls too. To be responsible for whatever we do too. One case happened in UK - a boy of 11 ( 9 ?) becomes a father - it's no fun as he cannot support himself nor his baby.
Do talk to him and try to find out what his attitude towards the girl (at home once) is. Do listen to him and talk to him patiently, do not lose temper or you can talk.
I trust that your relationship with your brother must be better than your parents. That's why your parents ask you to talk to him. Remember to show your care and love about him because he is your brother.
2009-04-11 9:55 pm
15歲係反叛期時候....
男仔係呢個時間好多野都想試,
其實你呀媽叫得你教佢,
你應該同你細佬都有兩句可以傾下,
你可以搵時間站係朋友角度同佢傾,
但唔好有話佢ge語氣出現,唔好頓起個家姐款,
慢慢同佢講住笑傾下......佢1定會明你講咩...



仲有其實15歲拍拖,你同屋企人可以唔好睇得咁緊.....
你地比佢拍,由得佢....
講真...如果你地唔比佢拍,你覺得佢會唔拍咩??
唔想佢出事,想佢頭腦清醒,係冇問題的..../
但你真係要同佢傾下計......要等佢清楚知道之後佢應該要點...
不過佢點最後都由佢決定,你地唔可以逼佢的
2009-04-11 9:54 pm
唉你又錯啦''一世人兩兄弟直接話又洗死咩''
你細佬都15啦''睇你你最小唔會16掛=.=''你同佢講15歲重未成年嫁...比d例子佢聽''之前ge14歲媽媽呀果d''如果佢係有腦ge話...都識得做啦''再加上你可以話佢聽女朋友拖下/錫下就好啦''
同佢講等你成年再搞再做''都唔怕...只係依家忍下先姐''加上如果咁岩比你中左獎''生個bb出黎...你點養呀''!!重有呀媽老豆好擔心你依個年紀做錯野嫁''...
係教住咁多先''希望幫到你...其實你幾大??
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