Angry and Depressed. I need hopefully some advice please?

whenever they start yelling go to a quiet spot like your room or the basement. a place where you can block everything out and do your homework or play a game or something. if you dont have a quiet spot outside then go get an outdoor hobby like tennis or basketball and whenever they start yelling go out and play that. i hope this helps and whatever you do DONT turn to alcohol to solve this problem.

This is terrible Your father is suffering from a terrible addiction. Studies have found that some people are more prone to becoming addicted to alcohol and some studies say that there can be an hereditary factor. For that reason, I hope you do not drink. You will be more susceptible to this addiction. Now with that said, you are not your Father and maybe your family needs to be reminded of that. If this happened recently, then it should all settle down. Everyone is angry and it should pass. Be the bigger person and try to not be angry back. Get out of the house if you can and hang out with some friends. Nothing gets rid of depression like laughter, so go have some fun and put it behind you for a while. i hope it all passes soon for you and I hope you have a wonderful holiday

Wow. Honestly I think the best thing you can do is tell your Mom and siblings the truth, tell them that it makes you feel bad and that you know they are having a hard time right now but so are you and you do not appreciate them taking it out on you like that.
Just be honest and it will help. I know it is hard to express feelings but people usually do not know how others feel until they are told. If you want something to change you need to COMMUNICATE. They need to understand that you ALL need eachother and not fight each other right now. Tell them you need them on your side and you want to be on theirs and not feel outcast.
Your family is just taking out their anger where they can. It is nothing person against you. They probably fear your dad and can't say what they want to to him. Something obviously needs to change first.
I am sorry you have to go through this. Believe it or not alcoholism is a disease but it is a disease that can be helped. Your dad just has to be willing to get help. Good luck.

1. Hold a family meeting and suggest an intervention for your father.

2. At the conclusion of this meeting, tell your family how hurtful it is when they accuse you of being just like him.

I am sorry you are going through this. If my suggestions don't help, please consider counseling so you can deal with the angry atmosphere in your house. I also suggest keeping yourself very busy. Join a gym to work out your frustration. I don't know your age so I don't know what else to suggest.

Take Care!

PRAY ABOUT IT! OR TALK TO SOMEONE IN YOUR FAMILY THAT WILL LISTEN. BEING ITS AROUND THE HOLIDAYS, TRY TO LIFT YOUR SPIRITS. BUT AFTER THAT TRY AND SIT DOWN AND HAVE A HEART TO HEART WITH YOUR PARENTS. WHAT EVER HAPPENS ALWAYS LOVE AND RESPECT YOUR DAD HE IS STILL YOUR FATHER. I WILL DEFINITELY KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN MY PRAYERS, AND YOU STAY STRONG.


GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

If your old enough to move out you should don't take the blame for what your dad is thats not right.
If you cant leave home then maybe you should call a family conference.
Your Dad will never change if he was an alcho before you were even born.
Your mum should have left his *** years ago.
My advice is move out when you can and get your own life away from all the drama. Good luck

You have my sympathies for what's going on around you. This cannot be a good situation for anyone.

Alcoholics need help with their addiction, but they have to WANT help.

Certain people in my family have made everyone else miserable with their alcoholism, but they refuse to accept responsibility for their disease.

If this is the case with your father and he doesn't want help, there isn't much you can do.

However, I'd highly recommend you attend the AA meeting for children of alcoholics.

Good luck!

I am sorry to heard it. I had the same similar case with u when i was young, i know how you feel now. You know that your dad is wrong, but as a child of your dad of course you don't want him to get yell by anyone. You want to protect him even his wrong right? I know that you feel upset that the family is falling a part. That's ok, you are young, just let them solve the problem. All you can do it leave this problem alone. Everything will be fine. Family is a family, they won't hate or angry at each other forever. If you feel upset at home, you can go to library to study when you get off school, so you can feel better. Moving out is not working at all. This problem still can't solve. Your parents also feel upset about it too. So don't break their heart. "Life is Hope" everything will be fine.

You should call 1-800-525-LOVE http://www.klove.com 24/7 and talk with the licensed counselor. Your description sounds like you're unfairly dealt with.

1-800-232-6459 http://www.focusonthefamily.com M-F business hours ask for Counseling dept., tell your story and concerns.

There is some good hope, by calling to these numbers.

"Emotions," Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D., is also good.

Well, if you're really unhappy at your house & think that it's a bad environment for you (which it sounds like it is), & you're able to support yourself, you should probably look into being legally emancipated. Basically, you get to become legal before you're 18 (if you want to be). So you're freed from your parents, you find your own place, & you don't have to really deal w/ them anymore if you don't want to. You can only get emancipated if you're living in a bad environment in your household & you're able to support yourself. So if you're not able to support yourself, you shouldn't do it. On the other hand, you should just try to have a serious talk w/ your family. It might be really awkward at this point, but it sounds like it needs to be done & as long as it doesn't get into a heated debate of a fight, you're fine. Just talk about how you're upset about how everyone treats each other in your house & how you wish it would be better for everyone. Tell your dad (when he's sober) that his drinking is a big problem, not only for you, but for everyone & that you really wish he would stop. Well, that's all I can really help you w/ right now. Sorry if I didn't help much! Good luck & Merry Christmas! :)