想離婚但又好矛盾
2008-10-16 2:01 am
我認識我老公都有8年，我07年結婚，剛結婚大約一年，有個女宜家5個月大，係我拖住個肚臨生之前一個月，我發現我老公出面有個女人已經一齊咗兩年幾，即係我哋結婚之前已認識，但個女人一直唔知佢有老婆，我同個女人對話過，佢話自己都係受害者，末結婚之前佢成家人都見過面同係佢度訓過，只有我乜都唔知，点解仲要同我結婚來害我，我當時好傷心成個人漰潰，大著個肚又辛苦，真係好想死,離婚同唔要個BB，但個肚已經9個月喇，當時都局住穿要面對，唯有等BB出世再算，佢應承我唔會再有，我無耐地原諒了佢，因為始終有個小朋友，我都唔想佢係個單親家庭成長。我沒有同朋友家人講，只有自己屈係個心度，真係好痛，直到現在大約過了半年，我個心仲係好唔開心，一想起就喊，我哋兩個感情唔好，就唔應該帶個小朋友來尼個世界，我覺得好對唔住個女。我對佢已經無信心，好驚佢會再犯錯，再令自己傷心，尼個咁傷痛既回憶好難忘記。想離婚但又好矛盾，唔知点樣面對家人同朋友，又唔想個女係唔健康環境成長。点做好尼？
回答 (7)
2008-10-16 2:13 am
✔ 最佳答案
唔好咁唔開心先啦=]你要知道,呢個世界上好多單親家庭'
佢地都好努力咁生活落去,
佢地的仔女只會更加錫佢地的爸爸媽媽的=]
而家人同朋友,你的身邊都會有單親的朋友啦,又點解要怕去面對佢地呢?
婚姻係你個人的事,唔洗理人地點諗嫁ma'
依家已經係21世界,思想都應該要開放d啦,
而且錯不在你,唔好將所有責任推係自己身上
其實你應該同屋企.朋友講下,傾下計,唔好收埋收埋
咁對自己係無好處的,只會令自己更加辛苦
你咁為個女,我覺得你真係1位好媽媽
其實你個女得5個月,咩都唔識
佢唔會對爸爸有太大依戀的,我估
所以如果你真係好辛苦,就應該係呢個時候諗清楚
如果將來後悔,個女有機會怪你的,
如果你依家離婚,你大個至少可以同佢解釋
每個媽媽最錫佢地的子女,而子女都1樣
唔怕老實同你講,我都係單身家庭出世嫁
我媽咪每日好辛苦做野搵錢,我只係會更加心痛佢,而唔會怪佢
1個兒女健康成身係要識得體諒父母,
而並唔係單單睇「哦,我有爸爸媽媽,咁就叫健康」的=]
而且,如果你繼續將件事拖落去,
唔排除有1日你地會鬧交,個女見到咁咪仲唔開心,更加對佢童年有陰影,唔係咩?
所以,身為女性,我覺得我地要堅強d!=]
唔好意思,我唔係有心話叫你地離婚,
但我覺得你唔可以為晒人,都要為自己諗下先得嫁ma=]
希望你早日脫離痛苦!=]
2008-10-20 4:23 am
那個真是臭男人...我睇左之後好嬲牙...佢做得出同第2個女仔一齊訓...簡直不可原諒!!!
我覺得你最好同你d朋友/家人講..講下心事會好d
2+最緊要係好好養大你d仔女成人才....
你怕單身(女人最好唔好單身,你一定會後悔)0r..你可以改嫁.....你怕你d細佬番到學校比人笑or...冇dad好慘..咁到個女 大個左..如果你老公戈時跟左個個賤格第3者結婚..唔要你..你同你個女咪仲慘....
最好改嫁我覺得...唔好再愛個個男人...佢唔係人...你有冇諗下佢當你係咩....搞大左你個肚又唔負責任...
我覺得你最好同你d朋友/家人講..講下心事會好d
2+最緊要係好好養大你d仔女成人才....
你怕單身(女人最好唔好單身,你一定會後悔)0r..你可以改嫁.....你怕你d細佬番到學校比人笑or...冇dad好慘..咁到個女 大個左..如果你老公戈時跟左個個賤格第3者結婚..唔要你..你同你個女咪仲慘....
最好改嫁我覺得...唔好再愛個個男人...佢唔係人...你有冇諗下佢當你係咩....搞大左你個肚又唔負責任...
參考: 我=]
2008-10-16 10:09 pm
男人十個有八個, 唔係出去"滾", 就有第三者啦! 不過最緊要係佢個心係唔係向著你. 係唔係緊你同BB先係最緊要.
因為你地已經結左婚, 有BB. 如果你為左個BB, 而佢都仲係對你好的話, 便算了. 遲早, 佢到最后都是選擇你的. 但係現在都要比少少壓力佢, 俾D機會, 等佢要緊你同BB多D先得........
因為你地已經結左婚, 有BB. 如果你為左個BB, 而佢都仲係對你好的話, 便算了. 遲早, 佢到最后都是選擇你的. 但係現在都要比少少壓力佢, 俾D機會, 等佢要緊你同BB多D先得........
參考: 自己
2008-10-16 5:03 pm
妳好！首先，這是一個心態問題－先思考一吓，妳老公有否和妳提到的那個女人再次交往，又或與其他女人有親密交往？
如上述答案都是「否」的話，就不要想太多，將精神放在照顧ＢＢ及改善夫婦關係方面。既然之前已經原諒了他，就不要想太多以前的事了（實行時比較困難）。
兩人的關係需要互相推動，妳們不是在進行單打比賽，反而正在進行雙打比賽；妳們要一起努力才能有好成績。
希望妳能淡忘那傷痛嘅回憶（需要一段時間），但既然決定了三人一起繼續走這人生旅途，就全程投入享受這旅程的風光吧！
祝生活愉快（記著除了小朋友，還要留些時間與妳的拍擋相處－只得兩人的時間，不是三人）！
如上述答案都是「否」的話，就不要想太多，將精神放在照顧ＢＢ及改善夫婦關係方面。既然之前已經原諒了他，就不要想太多以前的事了（實行時比較困難）。
兩人的關係需要互相推動，妳們不是在進行單打比賽，反而正在進行雙打比賽；妳們要一起努力才能有好成績。
希望妳能淡忘那傷痛嘅回憶（需要一段時間），但既然決定了三人一起繼續走這人生旅途，就全程投入享受這旅程的風光吧！
祝生活愉快（記著除了小朋友，還要留些時間與妳的拍擋相處－只得兩人的時間，不是三人）！
2008-10-16 8:22 am
I grew up in a single family. my father had so many women, I was 4 years old, one day I opened my father's suit case. I found some pics he and some naked women. Since that, I hate him, I dont want to see him again. Everytime I saw him, he only made my mom cry or asked her money.
As a child who grew up in a single family. I can tell you that it doesnt matter the child have father or not. The most important part is that you truely love her & care about her.
However, there is a problem. If you dovice your husband, which mean that you need to raise your child by yourself. Could you afford it? Could you still provide a good environment for your child and spend as much as time she needs at the same time?
唔想個女係唔健康環境成長? She is still young. When she grow up, she would see that if you are not happy to be with your husband or not, might be you will fright with your husband a lot or you will get hurt again, cry.... I can tell you that it hurts a lot more to child than you divorce your husband.
I grew up with frighting and violence. It makes me scared all the men, no trust in men, dont want to fall in love because I dont want to like my mom. If you really divorce your husband, at least you both can be friends. My friend, his parent got divorce. He is a happy person, he told me that even his parent got divorce his parent still love and care him soo much. He doesnt mind that they serprated, its better than always see they fright each other.
健康唔健康環境成長that depend on how much love you and your husband giving to your child.
唔知点樣面對家人同朋友? You should be no shame about it. It is not your fault. He should feel shame about it. Be strong, be tough, be brave to face the true. dont make the people who love you to worried you
As a child who grew up in a single family. I can tell you that it doesnt matter the child have father or not. The most important part is that you truely love her & care about her.
However, there is a problem. If you dovice your husband, which mean that you need to raise your child by yourself. Could you afford it? Could you still provide a good environment for your child and spend as much as time she needs at the same time?
唔想個女係唔健康環境成長? She is still young. When she grow up, she would see that if you are not happy to be with your husband or not, might be you will fright with your husband a lot or you will get hurt again, cry.... I can tell you that it hurts a lot more to child than you divorce your husband.
I grew up with frighting and violence. It makes me scared all the men, no trust in men, dont want to fall in love because I dont want to like my mom. If you really divorce your husband, at least you both can be friends. My friend, his parent got divorce. He is a happy person, he told me that even his parent got divorce his parent still love and care him soo much. He doesnt mind that they serprated, its better than always see they fright each other.
健康唔健康環境成長that depend on how much love you and your husband giving to your child.
唔知点樣面對家人同朋友? You should be no shame about it. It is not your fault. He should feel shame about it. Be strong, be tough, be brave to face the true. dont make the people who love you to worried you
參考: Me
2008-10-16 5:34 am
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