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Yeah, you're right, you're not her therapist, and you shouldn't be either. You're not responsible for her happiness, or the lack of it. Some people just need some straight-forward honesty in their life. Next time she complains about being sick, tell her to go to the doctor and get it checked out. When she whines, ask her what you're supposed to do about her situation. Keep putting it back into her lap, making her deal with her own problems. If she asks you where you're going, tell her "Out". If she still wants to know where, tell her she's not your mom and you don't have to check in with anyone. That might sound kinda short or mean, but it really isn't. It's showing her that you have a life, and are demanding your space to live it your own way. Since you live with this person, it would be very difficult to avoid seeing her every day, so you'll either have to 1) Ignore her, 2) Be honest with her, or 3) Move out. I know a few people like you describe, and I avoid them as much as I can. When I can't, I'll listen for a couple of minutes, then tell them I've got to get going. And you're probably right about her needing a therapist. She needs a professional to point out her negative attitudes, and to point her to some alternatives. My daughter has a flatmate like you have too, and she pretty much handles her the same way that I suggested. Who knows? If you tell her the truth about your feelings, it might make her take a hard look at what she's doing and change. In the meantime, start by asserting your rights to your own privacy. When she whines and cries, tell her you're getting tired of her whining and she needs to get a grip and re-focus her life on more positive stuff. If she continues to do this, after you've warned her, just get up and walk out. I'm sure you've got a door on your bedroom. If you can't do that, go for a walk, ignoring her when she asks where you're going. After a while, even the dumbest person will get the message. As far as hurt feelings, she doesn't seemed to be too concerned about your feelings. She's too wrapped up in hers to even consider that she's sucking all the oxygen out of the air around you. Just be firm, and keep repeating your needs to her. Eventually, she'll begin to hear you. <*)))><