(急)!!!HELP!!!分手後他的態度令我很迷惑.....OK長下,,,真係唔好意思啊!

I will answer in English if it is ok for you.
Anyway, this is a very typical case.
You love him more than he love you. So that is why you are puzzled.
He is more experienced than you do (10 years age difference !)
You may treat him as your ONLY man, but he may just treat you as one of the FRESHER girl he attempted.
You are just talking about some very basic memories from the relationship.
Of course, when he likes you he will treat you good, that is guaranteed. Nothing special either.
Well, You love him so much, and you cannot get rid of him in your mind ... so why not give him a chance ... I bet that you already slept with him (same bed) ... and you still love him.
Don't care about pride, because you lost it all when you still love him ... but at the same time you cannot accept anyone new anyway ...
So give him another chance and see how it goes ... but not expecting a lot now ... it is VERY VERY HARD for a man to settle down with one lady and if you both work in BAR/CLUB environment ... it is even more impossible for all kinds of temptation.

You are still very young as 18, so many handsome nice men in Hong Kong. No need to get stuck with a typical player man. When you are still young, you have market value, and try your best to get a man settle before your age at 26. Afterward, things will go downward...

All the best la, and let him chase you more, you need to play hard to get more ... dont let him think you are too easy and NAIVE.

He knows that you love him. So he has all the power.

good luck.



2008-09-08 09:09:23 補充：
I saw your email. I think you should let it cool down or move on, if he is playing on your feeling like it is now ... since player will never treasure you, he will just treat you as a physical resource like other girls he attempted. They don't even dare to believe in true love or anything.

2008-09-08 09:09:51 補充：
You need to move on and get out of this environment, otherwise, you will just meet one player after another ... until you are older and noone care .. that is the natural process.

I don't want to be harsh, but that is the fact.

2008-09-08 09:10:02 補充：
Remember, the man in the BAR, belongs to the BAR ... and similar the girl in the BAR belongs to the BAR ... If you want the good man to treasure you, you need to get out of the BAR and start a new life.

2008-09-08 09:10:13 補充：
But from now on, if he is the first man, it will take you an average of 1.5 years to forget him ...
so take it easy and take it slow ... accept the fact that he is a player. Because it looks like you already give him chance ...

2008-09-08 09:10:21 補充：
Otherwise, you are guarantee a loser and keep on losing in his power, until he finally trash you ... when he is totally tired of you.

That is all I can offer now from the bottom of my heart.

hao hao take care la :)

忽冷忽熱既態度 , 擺明係玩緊女 (即係你)
只有忽冷忽熱, 先可以食到你個心

佢可能真係有3歲大既仔既

但你唔係真係信佢, 個女仔拋俾佢就失蹤呀嘛

如果有個仔, 仲係度咁玩, 呢個爸爸真係無責任心

但係我肯定, 你信左佢 = 代表你跟左佢
我諗佢都係想check你係米想跟佢o者

你唔好搞咁多咁煩既野啦
搵過個啦~
你仲後生, 佢唔係你終生伴侶黎既
伴侶唔會係咁樣架

大把好條件過佢既啦
就係可能佢覺得佢自己條件咁樣
佢先想食住你

你年紀上少,不如比心機讀書
你們2個好唔"夾"
他有一個三歲的仔
又好似不需照顧他
時時掛住落尖咀
天光才回家
他連個仔都照顧唔好
又點照顧你呀

其實我相信你地都唔係太了解大家?
如果唔係你唔會信佢有個女..結過婚!
一對唔了解既情人, 必然問題多多!
點解唔大家了解多d至一齊?
或者佢真係詭緊你, 結過婚有個女又點?
你愛佢又會mind嗎? 如果mind又係唔係愛佢??
其實你應該睇清楚佢! 大家相識太短, 日子太小..
香港咩人都有! 佢係咩人你又清楚嗎?
唔好因為鐘意就成個人擺晒入去, 連理智都冇埋!
我覺得有好多野你唔需要問, 好似佢係咪結過婚有個女..
好易可以擦覺! 留意多d就會知...
因為即使係..佢存心詭你瞞你, 你問佢佢又會認嗎?
就係咁la

其實每個人都住係自己既荒島上面,每個人都會有自己人生追求既目標，都會有自我成長既要求，希望發揮自己既潛能，領悟出生命既真締。而愛情係生命旅程中其中一個直得追求既目標，小朋友唔會感覺寂寞，只會感覺到悶，感覺到無聊。但係當人大左之後，學識左乜嘢叫「愛」，人就會開始感覺到寂寞。寂寞似乎同愛情有關，又似乎無關。人都渴望得到愛情，因為人怕寂寞。希望能夠揾到一個(你愛既)人能夠了解自己，你希望得到對方的信任、關心、尊重、認同。

熱戀中既情侶為左配合對方，都可以暫時抑壓隱藏注自己既情緒/缺點。但係隨着日子一天天咁過去，兩個成長背景、生活習慣完全唔同既人，就自自然然要去面對同適應理彼此之間既各種問題，可能你會發現，要一直改變自己去適應對方會好辛苦!所以開始既時後,揾一個適合自己既人係好緊要。因為無論係你幾咁愛對方，定係對方幾咁愛你，就算可以係埋一齊，都唔一定會適合大家。其實人係冇十全十美既。你地可以嘗試去接受一吓對方的缺點。當彼此有不同的意見時做出妥協。學習信任同了解對方，讓彼此能夠清楚表達自己的需要同心入面既渴望。

友情 / 愛情 都係一種感覺, 感覺需要互動, 需要互相去配合對方，兩個人點樣係埋一齊生活好講 Teamwork!要識得隨機應變咁去做到相贏既局面。但最重要係,唔好講一D同做一D傷害彼此之間感情既嘢，因為咁會令到對方失去安全感同歸屬感。而如果你覺得委屈，如果覺得自己更愛對方，如果你曾經想過要改變你既另一半，變成一個你心目中喜歡既人，咁你就應該考慮一吓揾嗰個更加適合你自己既人。因為愛一個人唔一定需要擁有對方，男女之間亦唔一定只有愛情。愛情好多時會係不知不覺中轉變為感情/友情同親情!你地會逐漸將對方視作你生命中的一部分。

友情 / 愛情 都係一種感覺, 感覺需要互動, 需要互相去配合對方，你覺得自己愛對方，如果你想要改變佢，變成一個你心目中喜歡既人，你應該考慮搵一個更加適合你既對象。愛一個人唔一定需要擁有對方，男女之間唔一定只有愛情。愛情好多時會不知不覺中轉變為感情同友情，你會逐漸將對方視作你生命中既一部分，有D人因為唔可以離對方而選擇結婚，有D人選擇追逐激情而去愛另一個人。但更重要既係，你要問自己愛過之後你學倒D乜嘢。

有D人因為唔可以再離對方而選擇結婚，有D人會選擇追逐愛情。但更重要既係，你要問自己你學左D乜嘢。希望下次唔好再犯同樣既錯?! 愛情需要講緣份，緣來緣去,緣起緣滅。點解兩個人偏偏會相遇相愛? 你要記住，緣份好可能就係你哋彼此之間既每一個既選擇，你地每一句既說話，每一個既諗法, 每一個既決定都可能影響彼此之間既緣份。如果當你已經盡左最大既努力，愛情依然發現無法延續，咁就可能係時間(timing)上出現左問題。如果當愛情唔能夠同時出現响大家身上,就好多時會變成有緣無份!?

我希望你小心保護自己，因為每段戀愛關係都有一定既危險性。你應該問自己你會用幾長時間去感動對方,幾長時間之後你真真正正放棄﹖我真心希望你能夠搵到生命中的另一半。 所以唔好俾自己太大壓力，亦唔好俾對方太大壓力，比D耐性先得,Un 唔 Un 呀 :D

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