I hv known her for 2 years...She studies in HK and I study in UK..
We dont meet each other much coz we r both busy for various reasons n we study in different places...
We know each other through a close friend of mine and he told me that she had "good feelings" on me and so do I...
However as time flies her feeling might have become weaker and weaker but mine doesnt. I try to meet her in which she usually refuses. It makes me so upset. But when I ask my friend about her again, he says that the girl thinks that I am the right person to be his bf. However, she thinks that distance(UK and HK) is a big problem. And more importantly, she thinks that I have done nothing at all to show that I love her, which I admit I haven't and I am not good at it at all. However, she still seem reluctant to see me or even talk to me oh phone, sms etc. This makes what my friend has said contradictory. However, assuming what my friend says is right, what should my approach be?? I reli dun wanna give up...
how can i show to someone that i love her?
2008-08-28 10:29 am
回答 (4)
2008-08-29 10:21 am
✔ 最佳答案
我覺得你地2個都處理得唔好咁樣好容易就可以令到感情冷卻甚至破壞
我都係異地戀,但係我地從來都冇你地呢個問題
因為我地識得點樣去愛點樣去尊重對方
有樣野你地大家都要做就係計劃大家點樣先可以一齊
異地戀從來都唔應該係永久(20年果D已經係變左慣性既關係)
你同佢都應該好好計劃大家點先可以一齊
如果你地分開時點去聯絡對方
幾耐見可以親身見一次面,可唔可以見密D
總之好多問題要去討論
到最後,異地戀既成敗都只係取決於你地係咪雙方都真心相愛
你地識唔識成熟咁處理所以感情問題
識唔識得坦承溝通/了解/接納對方
呢D都係戀愛至為重要既問題
但係0係異地戀就更加重要
異地戀同普通戀愛最大分別
就係會考驗雙方感情同埋處理問題能力到極點
其實異地戀係一種好大既學問
你應該去參考下書本同網上資料而唔係0係呢度發問
你唔需要諗個女仔既朋友點同你講
你女朋友既心事只有佢一個先最清楚
你只係需要諗你自己係咪認真愛對方唔洗理人地點講佢
所以你應該直接同你女朋友講清楚
講你內心既感受同埋你對愛情既承擔
話俾佢聽你希望以後你地點發展
特別係要同佢好好計劃你地以後點樣先可以一齊生活
你幾時返去探佢,或者佢過黎探你
大家要等幾耐,又或者大家都0係同一度地方一齊讀書
異地戀應該係最後既撰擇,可免則免
而如果真係要異地戀
就要明白只有真愛先有可能通過到異地戀既考驗
2008-08-29 02:45:42 補充：
小心果D對異地戀有偏見既人
多數既人都唔係真係明白愛情既真諦
佢地拍拖只係為左有人陪唔洗悶
甚至可能只係為左攪果D野
但係呢D都唔係真正既愛情!!!!
你真係愛個女仔既就絕對唔可以放棄直到最後一刻
更加唔應該因為怕損失而捨棄愛情
2008-09-02 12:51 am
that's easy.You just wanna show to her that u love her, right?
She had said she had "good feelings" on u, so the problem and solve easily.
You know? Girls like boys can take the initiative^^.Just sent a SMS to her and say i love u ma, you two will in love soon!
She had said she had "good feelings" on u, so the problem and solve easily.
You know? Girls like boys can take the initiative^^.Just sent a SMS to her and say i love u ma, you two will in love soon!
參考: me
2008-08-29 10:09 am
I also agree the upper answerers' reply. Distance is a great pbl if you two don't have a fixable close relationship. So first you better determine your situation and you can also stand by the girl's side to think abt her. You know if you can't even contact her or she don't even want to keep the closer relationship with you. How can you keep go on it ? Love is belong to two of you, and couldn't build by oneself. Hope you can figure it out and continue your future.
參考: own exp
2008-08-28 1:38 pm
I think the distance is a huge problem, too.
If she has been refusing your messages then your friend was probably right about the fact that she likes you. I suppose she doesn't want to move on from LIKE to LOVE since missing someone 5000 miles away isn't funny at all. I have been doing this for almost 20 years and this really SUCKS !.
If you are only to be in UK for a little while before coming back to HK, or you have plans allowing both of you to be in the same place later, then go for it. Otherwise do yourself a favor and find someone else.
If she has been refusing your messages then your friend was probably right about the fact that she likes you. I suppose she doesn't want to move on from LIKE to LOVE since missing someone 5000 miles away isn't funny at all. I have been doing this for almost 20 years and this really SUCKS !.
If you are only to be in UK for a little while before coming back to HK, or you have plans allowing both of you to be in the same place later, then go for it. Otherwise do yourself a favor and find someone else.
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