My husband and I talked about this before marriage. I already told him I am not having a baby. All of the sudden he keeps talking about all the “wonderful & fun reasons to have kids”. He wants a child that is half of each of us. He is also talking about me getting the surgery reversed.
Since he brought this subject up this past weekend....I thought about the time when I got my tubes tied. My mother was the main reason I had the surgery. She was always VERY over-protective of me. (I have physical disabilities)
I am allergic to general anesthesia and need to have a c-section because of my hips. I cannot have an epidural or spinal tap because of my spine.
However, my mother in law told me that they use LOCAL anesthesia for c-sections. She was an Operating Room technician at the hospital.
I can’t help but wonder if I was pressured into my mother decision when I was younger. Do anyone have any insight on this?
I do not know if I want kids. I have gone 27 years with the idea of never having children and I've been content with that. We haven't seriously talked about this yet...but it was something that came up and got me wondering. I just wonder if maybe I was pressured into this and mis-informed by my mother all these years...she does like to be in control.
We cannot afford a Surrogate. I have explored all of this. We cannot adopt, because of his criminal record. He was charged with possession of narcotics when he was 17.
I have dwarfism and I'm aware of many women with dwarfism having children. The procedure is what concerned my mother! I have had over 18 surgeries, including the tubal ligation. My allergic reaction to general anesthesia is controlled with medications and other precautions. I am learning a lot here!