EX-WIFE??? why is she always talking about me??

Someone is obviously very insecure and jealous, whether it be about the husband, the child, or both. I know I couldn't handle another woman mothering my child. She obviously has HUGE insecurity issues.

The right thing for me to say would to be to ignore her and act mature about it to those she has talked to. I know when I talk to a crazy person, and then I meet that person and they seem really nice and rational, then I think, "that girl must have been nuts; this lady is nice." Just blow it off and say, "Well, that's too bad she feels that way about me and feels she has to spread lies for a boost of confidence. I really hope she feels better soon."

Basically, she is the one that looks crazy. If you put in the energy, people will believe her. She is very jealous of you.

You just keep doing what you are doing. The reason she is doing this is because she is envious and jealous of you. After all, she couldn't make it work with him but you are...see? She doesn't get along with him, but she also does not know how to let him go. You also have "her" son and believe me...no matter how old he is, she will always be his mother (in the boys eyes and in her eyes). Unfortunately, when you marry a divorced person, you also marry all their prior problems...now you know why.

In time, these so called friends will find out for themselves what the truth is. It is very hard (I know) to handle people, who have been indoctrinated against you. Just remember, that only shallow people with small minds, allow hear-say to govern their opinions. If they had any depth as individuals at all, they would observe and make their own, independent decisions.

In the mean time, you go and make your own friends and DON'T mix the two. There isn't much you can do, except start a nasty fight, if you confront her. She is taunting you and what she wants most is an all out nasty fight. So don't give her what she wants. It takes a brave person to tolerate this kind of meaness...your husband is the best person to confront her, not you. Tell him what is going on. Tell him you are hurt. Tell him, you want his protection from her lies. If your husband has any kind of spine, he will do the talking. And he will be the one to put her in her place.

After that, just put her as far away as you can from yourself...but DO NOT HIDE! Just go about your business in a dignified (but not snotty or stuck up) manner. Show the world you are bigger and more intelligent than she is, and a more graceful, decent and honest person. You can achieve the upper hand if you do not react, do not go after her personally, refrain from backstabbing, and do not hide or be afraid. In time, she'll stop the nasty business because her efforts won't yield results. How long can she last? Who knows? Maybe a while, maybe a long while. But finally, she'll be forced to do something else.

I think you will be a smart lady, if you just keep doing as you have said, with her son and be happy you have your husband, make new and loyal friends, let your husband handle her instead, and you go about your life and your business with confidence and dignity. Things will turn out alright given time.

Their gonna believe what she says until u show them otherwise. U said it urself they don't know u. Take time to get to know them then if it bothers u!

BTW- U shouldn't let what others say about u get to u. They don't live ur life u do, If ur happy w/ it to hell w/ them!! U do not need to explain urself but u can't get mad when people make their own opinions when they don't know u!

Although you have offered up a lot of information there is much I don't know. But have you given any thought to the fact that this women has to wake up every day knowing that some other women is raising her child. The thought of it rips my heart out. I can't imagine what it is going to the boy's biological mother. The women is dealing with, probably, the greatest loss in her life.

Very simple, you have what she cannot...the husband.

first of all write down all the times she sees her son. dates times everything. she may one day try to take him. see if you can record calls in your state. then do so if you can. anyways i would not let her bother you. she is just jealous and wants to break up your marriage and make you mad. dont let her get the best of you, you are better than that. deal with your own friends and family, why do you care what others think. also i would try to move if you can and get farther away from her. you dont need to justify your daughters life with anyone. good luck

Time for you to start socializing with your husband's friends so they see how wonderful you are with him and his kid! they're not idiots, they'll realize very soon that the ex's accusations are not founded.

Because she is aloser and has to blame you then face the fact she has things she needs to change in her life. It is easier to blame someone else, and she is jealous of you. Consider the source. People who really know you and are your friends will not believer her. The child and your husband opinions are the only one that should matter.

Linda