Are these signs of depression?

definatly sounds like depression and something to expect after your mum dying. messed up sleep.... eating.... all signs.

its completerly normal.... unfortunatly. but there is support avaliable. you at school still? i am sure there is someone there that you could talk to....and dont be ashamed about asking for help. the sooner you get hold of this and get some support... and if neccessary some treatment, the better you will be.

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

1.Headaches. Headaches and migraine headaches are fairly common in people with depression. If you already had migraine headaches, they may become worse if you?re depressed.
2.Back pain. If you already suffer with back pain, it may get worse if you become depressed.
3.Muscle aches and joint pain. Depression can make any kind of chronic pain worse.
4.Chest pain. It?s very important to get chest pain checked out by an expert right away.
5.Digestive problems. Queasiness, nausea, diarrhea and chronic constipation can all stem from depression.
6.Exhaustion and fatigue. No matter how much you sleep, do you still feel tired and exhausted? Fatigue and depression are not a surprising pair.
7.Sleep disturbances. People with depression often have difficulty falling asleep, or awaken in the early hours of the morning and find themselves unable to get back to sleep.
8.Change in appetite or weight. Several studies have found excess weight to be linked with depression symptoms, a history of depression, and other measures of psychological distress (e.g. anxiety).

it sound like your stil in the "shock" of loseing your mother. it may be depression but it also maybe sometyhing else. i lost a friend in a car accendent adn im still not over it, it was 2 years ago. if you need someone to talk to email me, my email is [email protected].

<3hope you get better<3

I lost my Mum in September 2006. The feelings that you are going through are all stages of grief. You are are normal but should really see a doctor so he/she can tell you if it is depression. I know how hard it is losing a Mum, I still cry alot about my Mum. I used to talk to her all the time, we were really close. Now I concentrate on the positive things about Mum, like what a lucky person I was to have a mother like mine and how much I loved her. I had sleep problems to, I just could not get to sleep and that is when I went to see a doctor. I know this is going to sound strange but believe me time is a healer, you will never have your old life back - the one when your Mum was around but she is around you more now spirituality. Do look after yourself - that is the main thing, do not despair. I know what it is like to despair as losing my Mum caused me to have a nervous breakdown and that was a year ago now.

good question, i wanna ask this too. lolz
my doctor told me i gotta stress, depression & anxiety but i dont even feel it. i feel normal, only the dizziness or lighheadeness bother me. u can try talk to me if u need so. kindly email me [email protected] or [email protected]

Yes they are signs of depression. Some people want to mourn for up to a year or even more, but there are levels and degrees where it is no longer healthy, and you appear to have reached them.

Do you think that you dear Mother would have expected you to behave in this way? I doubt it and I think that it would be good for you to allow yourself to slowly return to "the land of the living" again. Try to share and give empathy and help to others in your family who may be felling but not physically showing similar thoughts to you.

I would defintely urge you to go see your doctor. I have suffered from depression most of my life, so know the signs pretty well. You may not need medication, but it sounds like a therapist could very well help.

Yes, depression which happens through the grief cycle:

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depession and Acceptance
as stated by Elisabeth Kubler Ross, see website below

Though its not normal to suffer like you are now, you need to find a support group in your area very soon. Also you may need medical help at least in the short-term.

hi baby girl, yes these are signs of depression. please talk to someone.
try doing things to relax before you go to bed. read a book take a warm bath. a slow walk.

try to keep yourself awake during the day . avoid caffine

good luck
and please please please talk to someone.

i am so sorry about the loss of your mother

are u scared to b depressed? u should, u know its normal...what u lived is hard and i feel sorry for u. its totally normal, u r depressed but itll b ok, lots of people cant live normally and cant control those types of situations and seeing ur sharing it and talking about it, shows that u r strong.ull get over it ;p

Yes, you should try talking to a therapist sweetie.
Good Luck

It may be as it is lasting a long time. That is one of the signs of clinical depression, it lasting more then a few months. I think though because of your loss, it is more likely a temporary thing. You could use some counseling though to help you get through these rough times.

I believe it may well be grief related (situational) depression.

Let me join with the others, here, in offering you condolences on your loss. Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U.S.A.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email [email protected] Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ (coping, supporting others, loss of relationship, or pet) and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 and http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/ Understand that there are often several stages of grief.

The stages are:

Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one and divorce. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two.

See http://www.amazon.com/ for books on the various stages. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside one day per month on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. If there is depression: visit your doctor, and see depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris in section 2.
Suggested Resources on Grief and Mourning: Beyond Grief: A guide for recovering from the death of a loved one; and: Men and grief: A guide for men surviving the death of a loved one, New Harbinger Productions Inc. 5674 Shattock Ave, Oakland, CA 94609 Phone: 1-800-784-6273

James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins. Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press.

Livingstone, B. (Planned August, 2007). The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books.

Simon, S, & Drantell, J. J. (1998). A Music I No Longer Heard: The Early Death of a Parent.

Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, http://www.boblivingstone.com/

INSOMNIA: Put your mind in a position where it wants to shut itself off, and sleep. See insomnia treatments, in much more detail than can be included here, in section 3, at ezy build. Use one of the relaxation methods, in bed, after lights out, on pages 2, 11, 2.c, or 2.i, but they can take some time to learn, (progressive muscular relaxation excepted) so learn and become proficient in their use during the day; an alternative is to use the EFT, in section 53, and pages 2.q, and 2.o, saying to yourself: "Even though I currently have a sleep disorder, I deeply and completely accept myself." (or choose your own wording) while you use the acupressure tapping. Some more; quick, and easy to learn, are at http://www.umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.htm I have not yet evaluated them, but they seem to be worthwhile trying, and I like to provide options.

Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set "wind down" routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep, but the idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques. I suggest that you try using the EMDR variant, below, prior to the mindfulness, or the progressive muscular relaxation, but after the EFT, if that method is chosen. Experiment, to find which combination works best.

(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case).

Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second).

Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times: "A thousand and one; a thousand and two... " and so on, to a thousand and twenty. Then close your eyes and relax. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner. Then, repeat the procedure one last time. Some people may find that this is all they need do. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over.

I also use it prior to my chosen relaxation technique, after lights out, at night. For more about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, showing recommendations by those who have used it, including a professional psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience in that field, see sections 33 - 34, at ezy-build.

Usually, I have a cup of chamomile herbal tea, an hour before bedtime, and employ the above techniques. Others may prefer Sleepytime, by Celestial Seasonings, or valerian root, from supermarket tea, or health food aisles.

No daytime sleeping!
Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, when needed.