我已和太太結婚6年了, 有一個5歲女兒, 看似好幸福, 但並非如此.
事情是這樣的:
我們年齡相差14年, 在結婚後早期, 我們的經濟並不好, 但都維持到, 住宿無問題. 最近, 我太太和我說, 她已不能忍受了, 如一直挨落去會好辛苦, 她要離開. 我知她忍不了, 可能我做唔到她的要求, 如出街無拖她的手, 無幫她拎手袋, 經濟等等.....
她有時晚上會幫朋友在酒吧兼職, 就是這樣, 她識了個男人(個男人好有錢), 這個人最先唔知她結了婚和有女, 一直用sms和我太太聊天和追求她.
就在我生日之後一日, 她約了我出來傾, 話要分開吓, 但無想過離婚, 當時她想冷靜吓. 之後她都有時回家和我同女一同食飯, 當然我見到她就求她不要走, 又喊又跪....她都無乜反應. 又過了一陣子, 我問她到底我們怎樣, 但她已承認和那男人開始了, 自此她都無回家瞓, 只是有時湊女就一齊. (個男人已稱呼她為老婆)
我真係好煩, 個女又開始讀小一, 離婚又對個女影響好大, 我都唔明佢想點. 我可以做乜. 我覺得好無助....
婚姻出現第三者
2008-06-30 4:57 am
回答 (7)
2008-06-30 9:44 am
✔ 最佳答案
有時緣份好難講,要識得放手,你都出了力啦,退一步可能會更好,只有積極想法!可能你太太他日幸福時會很感激你,未嘗唔係一件好事!
至於女兒的問題,雖然一定對佢有影響,但香港大把單親家庭兒童都是那麼生活,時間會沖淡一切!
你現在做的,是怎樣調整自己心態和計劃新生活,暫時做不到,便和女兒去散散心,要減壓啊!
你回望從前人生有很多煩惱,現在不是過去了嗎?
再看從前曾經擁有過的,現今還可以有多少存在嗎?
我看了你的遭遇,亦感觸良多,我亦是人生路多災多難的人!
我相信有很多網友關心你和支持你,但你要加油啊!
最幫到自己就是自己!
我是苦命人,來!大家一起加油!
參考: 自己遭遇
2008-06-30 9:38 pm
要走始終要走,留倒佢個人,,但留吾到佢個心.........又何苦,
平心氣, 與她相討....離事宜....女 女.......跟邊個, 善養費等......問題,記著:你已盡了力
平心氣, 與她相討....離事宜....女 女.......跟邊個, 善養費等......問題,記著:你已盡了力
2008-06-30 11:27 am
你現在要做的是,努力把女兒養大,感情係無得免強,要走的始終係會走,努力吧,你要支持下去,暫時不要想咁多拉,.................
2008-06-30 10:55 am
I am so sorry to hear that
You can't fulfill her, this is truth... No matter how hardworking you are, you can't still as wealthy as the third person, right?
If she is not happy when she is with you, if you love her, pleser let her go and hope she will be happy with that "rich man".
I know you must be very depressing when your wife leaves you based on financial problems.
But it also means your wife doesn't love you and your daughter enough, and she loves money more than family, right?
Don't alsways condemn yourself with the past, it is over, and luckily you still have a daughter, try your best to educate her
Lead your new life!! You cannot just sit here and depressed, your daughter needs you so much, your daughter will be proud of you, so don't indulge yourself into anything, wines, gamble and all sorts of that.
Be brave to face the truth! You have to live, your daughther needs you, she nees a good father.
Love her as much as you can, but don't spoil her, teach her how to be a good person, it is now all your responsibilty.
Face the truth, no matter how painful it is, a better tomorrow must come, don't give up
ADD OIL!!!
You can't fulfill her, this is truth... No matter how hardworking you are, you can't still as wealthy as the third person, right?
If she is not happy when she is with you, if you love her, pleser let her go and hope she will be happy with that "rich man".
I know you must be very depressing when your wife leaves you based on financial problems.
But it also means your wife doesn't love you and your daughter enough, and she loves money more than family, right?
Don't alsways condemn yourself with the past, it is over, and luckily you still have a daughter, try your best to educate her
Lead your new life!! You cannot just sit here and depressed, your daughter needs you so much, your daughter will be proud of you, so don't indulge yourself into anything, wines, gamble and all sorts of that.
Be brave to face the truth! You have to live, your daughther needs you, she nees a good father.
Love her as much as you can, but don't spoil her, teach her how to be a good person, it is now all your responsibilty.
Face the truth, no matter how painful it is, a better tomorrow must come, don't give up
ADD OIL!!!
參考: me
2008-06-30 7:01 am
我認為依家唔係挽救婚姻的時候, 她要走到別人身邊就代表
佢經已選擇了!
我建議你努力盡爸爸本份, 將女兒養育成才, 到時個女會明
白你既苦心 ... 一個媽媽可以做出咁既事可想而知, "錢" 就
緊要過佢個女 ... fine ~ 黎個係佢既選擇, 亦不要再為她而
流淚 ~
若然有朝一日, 個女知道爸爸將佢養育成才, 她將來對你有
孝心, 好多事情經已唔再重要 ~
佢經已選擇了!
我建議你努力盡爸爸本份, 將女兒養育成才, 到時個女會明
白你既苦心 ... 一個媽媽可以做出咁既事可想而知, "錢" 就
緊要過佢個女 ... fine ~ 黎個係佢既選擇, 亦不要再為她而
流淚 ~
若然有朝一日, 個女知道爸爸將佢養育成才, 她將來對你有
孝心, 好多事情經已唔再重要 ~
參考: 本人從外國回流工作, 現駐香港
2008-06-30 5:33 am
你問清楚她,到底她是否真心喜歡個有錢人...
如果是的話,也無謂強留一個不愛你的人...但不是的話(即是個女人只愛錢的話),咁你可嘗試遊說一下她...(例如有關你個女,你也要講清楚狀況,睇下她會點樣顧及個女的感受之類,畢竟大多女人是較顧家的)
仲有看看你現時的經濟狀況也可能對事件有所幫助...你老婆
其實都挨得好辛苦,但是你也要相應地庝她,最好令她覺得[雖然挨得幾辛苦但是為了你值得]...例如你可以嘗試分擔她的家務...但是重點是她還對你有感情...完全沒有的話基本上做咩都冇用...
但是在你的女兒方面,你也需要問一問她的意願,因為你也要上班,也未必有空好好照顧她的......但是不要迫她選擇,始終小孩子不想父母分開的...假若女兒不想大家分開的話,就嘗試遊說一下你老婆啦...最好比她見到女兒的眼淚=_=...
如果是的話,也無謂強留一個不愛你的人...但不是的話(即是個女人只愛錢的話),咁你可嘗試遊說一下她...(例如有關你個女,你也要講清楚狀況,睇下她會點樣顧及個女的感受之類,畢竟大多女人是較顧家的)
仲有看看你現時的經濟狀況也可能對事件有所幫助...你老婆
其實都挨得好辛苦,但是你也要相應地庝她,最好令她覺得[雖然挨得幾辛苦但是為了你值得]...例如你可以嘗試分擔她的家務...但是重點是她還對你有感情...完全沒有的話基本上做咩都冇用...
但是在你的女兒方面,你也需要問一問她的意願,因為你也要上班,也未必有空好好照顧她的......但是不要迫她選擇,始終小孩子不想父母分開的...假若女兒不想大家分開的話,就嘗試遊說一下你老婆啦...最好比她見到女兒的眼淚=_=...
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