女在美國, 男在日本, 拍拖二年幾, 訂了婚, 雙方家長見了面, 商好結婚細節, 結婚相都影了.
女方一路來都不做家務, 亦好小姐脾氣, 要求所有錢銀歸她管, 男方都可接受, 遷就.
自訂了婚, 問題來了:-
1) 女方已三十幾嵗, 提出3年後, 如適應日本生活才考慮生育, 男方是獨子, 想早有孩兒, 3年後又如何?
2) 女方要求男方結婚前, 將現有日本千萬港元樓房加她名.
3) 對男方家人不尊敬, 如: 男家妹妹及妹婿不給出席雙方家長見面, 家中收養的小孩不給出席婚禮, 結婚相不給男家觀看....等.
4) 脾氣差, 專橫無商量餘地, 如: 酒家按排, 開席時間晚上7點(香港通常8點半), 印貼...等細節.
女仔自中學時期與男方家人已相識, 一路印象都好不錯, 為何訂婚後後180度轉變?
她的心態是怎樣?
有考慮取消婚約, 道德上有問題?
訂婚後一定要結婚?
2008-06-04 8:41 am
回答 (5)
2008-06-12 7:55 pm
the girl already 30 years old, she should be happy someone still like her. woman age turned so quick after 30------ going down hill //////
have you even heard people say, woman over 30 years old without marry will start has psychologically unbalance problem??
she probably has this problem-------thinking too much about herself all the years and now she is thinking over broad la.
marriage is about TRUST and LOVE and COMMITMENT, if she needs money and property to secure her believe. they will be a troublesome couple in later day.
if i am the man, i will call off the wedding now. marry a heartless wife is much more painful than without wife.
also remember, it is almosts impossible to change another persons personality. what you get now is what you get in the rest of your life.
have you even heard people say, woman over 30 years old without marry will start has psychologically unbalance problem??
she probably has this problem-------thinking too much about herself all the years and now she is thinking over broad la.
marriage is about TRUST and LOVE and COMMITMENT, if she needs money and property to secure her believe. they will be a troublesome couple in later day.
if i am the man, i will call off the wedding now. marry a heartless wife is much more painful than without wife.
also remember, it is almosts impossible to change another persons personality. what you get now is what you get in the rest of your life.
2008-06-07 7:35 am
訂婚後唔一定要結婚，如女方諸多要求，又多缺點．
換了是我就一定取消婚約．但始終是你們兩人的事，
旁人很難給意見．如果你認為接受得到，根本就唔係
問題，如果你接受唔到，相對一世流流長，唔使我教
你點做掛．好自為之啦！
換了是我就一定取消婚約．但始終是你們兩人的事，
旁人很難給意見．如果你認為接受得到，根本就唔係
問題，如果你接受唔到，相對一世流流長，唔使我教
你點做掛．好自為之啦！
2008-06-05 5:29 am
我都覺得你應該取消婚約,听你咁講呢個女仔應該係個好自私ge人來,正常來講如果個女仔愛你ge話係會愛屋及烏,根本不會對你家人不尊敬,就算 脾氣差,該有的禮貌還是要有的.就你講的呢個女仔真係唔要得,除非你好愛她.離不開她,那你就要和她講清楚.你說你的身家有日本千萬港元樓房已經是一個有錢人來,不用怕找不到人品好人又漂亮的女孩.有些事是不能 遷就的,如果你為了 道德問題而和她結婚的話最後都會離婚收場,你要想清楚.
參考: 自己
2008-06-05 1:03 am
我左右銘係 - 寧教人打仔, 莫教人分妻!
但係據你以上所說, 似乎佢同你完全唔夾. 最好廷遲或取消婚約為妙, 待大家再了解多些才考慮吧!
未結婚是絕對有權選擇. 訂了婚唔一定要結婚, 未結都攪到這樣, 而且好女仔多的是, 你唔想一輩子後悔吧!
"她的心態是怎樣?" - 有時認識耐左會不保留表露真面目
"要求所有錢銀歸她管, 日本千萬港元樓房加她名" - 佢似乎太重金錢, 如果有一日你無晒所有野, 佢會點對你先? 會陪你過埋下世嗎? 你會更加淒涼更無地位, 你地都結婚, 點解佢仲要同你計較呢? 如果比晒佢, 佢一走了之點算呀! 千萬不好, 要保護自己. 正所謂人不為己xxxx...
對男方家人不尊敬又無愛心, 咩人黎嫁, 你放棄佢吧!
我身邊有學識又有美貌有教養有事業的女仔真的多的是呀, 但係找不到男朋友, 你唔需要攪到這樣吧!
但係據你以上所說, 似乎佢同你完全唔夾. 最好廷遲或取消婚約為妙, 待大家再了解多些才考慮吧!
未結婚是絕對有權選擇. 訂了婚唔一定要結婚, 未結都攪到這樣, 而且好女仔多的是, 你唔想一輩子後悔吧!
"她的心態是怎樣?" - 有時認識耐左會不保留表露真面目
"要求所有錢銀歸她管, 日本千萬港元樓房加她名" - 佢似乎太重金錢, 如果有一日你無晒所有野, 佢會點對你先? 會陪你過埋下世嗎? 你會更加淒涼更無地位, 你地都結婚, 點解佢仲要同你計較呢? 如果比晒佢, 佢一走了之點算呀! 千萬不好, 要保護自己. 正所謂人不為己xxxx...
對男方家人不尊敬又無愛心, 咩人黎嫁, 你放棄佢吧!
我身邊有學識又有美貌有教養有事業的女仔真的多的是呀, 但係找不到男朋友, 你唔需要攪到這樣吧!
2008-06-04 9:13 am
定婚後才出現的改便及新的要求(條件), 是定婚時沒有考慮到的.
(等如講好價錢落了定, 送貨前才話要加價, 此交易應該作費.)
定婚後可取消婚約, 正是定婚的好處. 總好過結了之後才離婚.
這是最有道德的做法.
有些人為達到目的, 可以把決點真我隱藏. 但目標達到, 鉛華盡洗, 才以真我示人. 露出原我.
(等如講好價錢落了定, 送貨前才話要加價, 此交易應該作費.)
定婚後可取消婚約, 正是定婚的好處. 總好過結了之後才離婚.
這是最有道德的做法.
有些人為達到目的, 可以把決點真我隱藏. 但目標達到, 鉛華盡洗, 才以真我示人. 露出原我.
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