1個男仔吾太上進,還可以愛下去嗎?!thx

2008-04-21 7:55 am
我和我的男朋友1齊左半年..我[17歲]他[18歲]
但我開始發現1個問題
就係究竟1個男仔吾太上進,我應否和他愛下去嗎?
有幾次他無錢食飯,搭車,買煙..問我借
有時會問我借,但次次無還
但我自己覺得,佢講得借就要還..吾係吾好講借都好d
佢咁樣好似無咩責任感
但有次我買野,我諗住比果陣,佢話佢比住先,1陣比番佢
我無諗過吾還比佢.4個鐘吾夠佢好似吹住我還咁
有時我會諗,我買果陣,我諗住比果陣,
點解佢會話佢比住先,我1陣先比番佢?
我覺得係佢想係人面前係佢比,無咁魚掛..[可能我主觀,不肯定]
我知佢家境吾好,所以我地出街刀係aa制,我刀吾會問佢借錢
但...我覺得..他家境吾好的話..係咪應該更要上進d呢?!
但佢吾會...
所以我怕長此下去...不會太好[愛情不能飲水飽]
但我又不想放棄他,其實他也對我也不錯,會tum我開心,專一

其實我以上的想法,會不會是我太過自私?!
他不上進,我應否與他1起?!
這個問題困擾我很耐了...可以給我意見嗎?
謝謝你們..thx

回答 (8)

2008-04-21 10:14 pm
✔ 最佳答案
首先守信係最重要呀,既然佢係向你借既,就要還,有借有還先係君子所為呀.而唔係次次老馮你會幫佢俾乜俾乜..容乜易下次叫你交電話費,交租架.
另外.拍拖唔係一時既事,如果你地真係有打算既,就要想下將來,雖然你地依家都係好細,但現今社會樣樣都要錢.衰d講句,我覺得無錢就唔應該拍拖,自己都照顧唔到,學咩人去照顧女朋友呀.想餓死人地個女呀?
如果佢真係對你真心既.你將你既感想講佢知.佢一定會去改,你唔係迫佢買鑽石戒子俾你呀.至低限度你想佢上進do者,對大家都係好事呀.有邊個食完今日果餐唔知聽日點呀?如果佢唔接受仲鬧你的話,我想你都係好好諗下你地既關係啦,究竟呢個人係未真係咁值得你付出時間,青春,金錢去俾佢呢?即係你要養埋佢喎?如果佢肯改,你只係短期內幫忙下佢無所謂.但情況未如改善,你就要考慮下啦.
2008-04-22 12:32 am
同佢傾下,或者大家有不同的諗法..你唔講,佢又點知道...人當然想男仔照顧女仔啦..但係唔上進,又唔係一個理由啫.或者佢對你點,你知道幾多呢...大家多D傾下啦...
2008-04-21 6:57 pm
佢都18歲啦..佢係未讀咁書先?吾係既真係要返工la...

就算讀咁書抽小小時間一星期2日既工都有好多啦..

姐係吾好講人工..好多7-11,m記,餐廳..一星期返小小都得..

連你都話佢吾上進.就一定係吾上進..

另外佢家有問題就更加要返工~

佢想係人面前係佢比錢..呢個一定係要面..

不過拍過拖既男女..都一定係男去比錢..我男友都係咁..

但佢吾吹我..我自己會比番錢佢..

我男友都係18歲.....但你覺得佢不錯就吾好散啦...姐係難得搵到..

不如你同佢講/試下寫信比佢...叫佢上進d,改下之類啦..

佢係好既會改ga la~~
參考: 我
2008-04-21 2:56 pm
1個男仔吾太上進, if you think that you are going to marry him in the future than you better think about. Because you definitely will have a very hard and miserable life. He will always ask you for money, money and still money; you will not have a happy live with him. Luckily you guys are still very young, should think more about your future, study hard and get a good job with a good happy future. Do not put yourself in a sinking mud pool and worth nothing.

You are so smart to think ahead, for your own good and your boyfriend as well. If he is not the type that you like, that can give you good and safe future. You better think about it.
2008-04-21 9:09 am
個男仔唔掂喎
你地讀緊書定點架, 佢十八歲就咁, 其實真係唔係咁掂
乜佢無錢既咩而你好有錢架??? 佢問得你「借」一次又一次都好無對嚴喎, 問得你一次, 以後都會問你借, 即係食軟飯咁制
你買野佢又爭住比, 擺明就係要面子啦, 咁大男人, 之後仲要你比番佢, 比遲少少仲要吹你, 唔係呀ma, 講真, friend會咁都唔奇, 但拍拖係咁就好唔知點咁囉
你話佢對你好, 我想問佢係咪你既初戀黎架, tum你開心, 同一把口可以tum你開心, 但同時亦都可以令你以後會好唔開心, 佢對你專一, 你借錢比佢可以係佢對你專一既原因, 又或者唔係啦, 不如你試下唔借錢比佢, 睇下佢對你會係點
不上進既男仔, 其實係唔好既, 至少要有一份工, 有穩定既收入, 唔通一世靠你咩, 你真係要好好想清楚呀
2008-04-21 8:58 am
你要自己諗諗
你需要一個只哄你開心既男人
還是都會照顧到你既男人

他是這種品性也沒辦法
我個人覺得男人次次同你講錢
你遲早都會對他反感
參考: me
2008-04-21 8:12 am
咁既情況下你就要認真係咁同佢傾下啦
而家都唔係上唔上進既問題最緊要係佢而家既問題就係連自己都搞唔掂佢自己既經濟問題,佢連自己都解決唔到自己經濟問題咁就連讀書都無錢啦唔好講話上進.
你倒不如同佢傾下佢而家咁既經濟狀況佢諗住點解決同長遠將來諗住點,大家拎個問題出黎傾下睇下佢點答你再決定仲同唔同佢一齊啦
2008-04-21 8:11 am
不可以說你錯
這是你的想法
有些國家什麼什麼結婚
錢....全部都是女仔比的
不要太中國守舊思想
兩個人一齊....是應該開心的
如果只是少少錢....對你沒什麼經濟問題...就大方一點
如果錢方面.....不足夠...就要努力一點....
如果努力也沒用.....只好分手....
因為一講錢....多數傷感情....時時吵鬧,,,,最後都會是分手...

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