冷靜期...唔知點做

2008-03-14 6:01 pm
同我男朋友一齊幾乎2 年..long distance relationship~
我是學生在美國& 他大我7 年
therefore, 他工作在hk ~
一個月前, 我們大吵, 因為他talked his"worry/stuff" with another girl~ (工作在same place).... i was so unhappy about that....
because,, i don't understand why he cannot tell me and every time we chat in msn with cam. he just so mad with me~
then i talk about that with him...and he said..."i told u already,,but just u don't understand anything"
我成認..我唔夠關心佢..我自已學校都有好多野做.....
then...left that problems behind....

week before...one of his fd who from another country came to visit him~
& lived in his house....that fd. is a girl~
i ..really already....control my emotion...
i know and understand ...not alway can have another fd came to visit ge~
but,,,he suddenly treat me so "good"~
no matter what request i give to him~
he just follow it.....on that week~
after that girl left.......
he just totally change......

& i really can not stand.....how the way he treated me~
suddenly good ...suddenly bad...
so,,i said...give a break to our relationship~
i did wrong ma?????
we almost haven't talk on phone and see each other from cam 1.5 weeks~
&...nowsday...we chat on msn ...just keep type "o...yes..ok...ng.."
i really love him~
he really mean something for me.....
but,,i really don't want to "tum" him...
&..after all....keep same happen ......

p.s. 佢個人..一d都唔感情用事..
我點對佢..佢就點對我...
話再係咁就咁...

after i said ...need a break...
i cry a lot......
but,,i just can't tell any of my fd...
from the beginning of this relationship~
already none of my fd like...and accept...
i really don't know what i can do right now...
plz someone help me out .... :(

回答 (2)

2008-03-15 4:51 am
✔ 最佳答案
妳睇得明中文嗎?
睇唔明0係補充度叫我打英文啦

老實講....唔係好多人會明白異地戀既苦況....
好多人都靜係識得話唔好異地戀....
但的確兩個人分隔兩地就必定要保持極完善既溝通
而且當遇上問題時大家都一定要坦承咁面對問題
絕對唔可以逃避
對呢點我覺得妳男朋友好唔成熟
而且對妳完全冇D敏感觸覺好似有自己冇人地咁
佢對其他女仔好過妳咁多的確係極唔岩
特別係佢冇問過就叫第2D女仔返黎訓真係太過份!
而且仲完全唔將妳既感受放0係眼內!
講真我睇到妳話個女仔同佢一齊住果個禮拜佢特別開心
我有種好唔安樂既感覺....
我唔排除佢可能係同個女仔好開心所以對妳心情都好哂
又可能係因為佢對妳好係想扮自己係個好男仔俾個女仔睇
我唔想講得咁衰咁
不過呢D始終係D現實世界度時時發生既事黎....
始終....妳好多野都睇唔到....

不過2年異地戀感情始終係好難得
我覺得唔好咁易放棄囉
我好明白妳好愛佢好想維擊到呢段感情
我覺得最重要係大家必定要坦承溝通解決大家既問題
呢個極之重要既決定因素!!!
所以如果妳男朋友都係自我中心我行我素咁妳地就好麻煩嫁啦
當然亦都要睇下佢有冇心解決妳地之間既問題啦!
好多男仔都好冇承擔!!!

妳要令佢知道妳好珍惜呢段感情
希望大家可以平心靜氣解決大家既問題
要佢明白戀愛係兩個人之間既事
俾佢知相隔異地就更能夠體驗到大家既感情有幾深厚
要俾明白妳希望作為另一半佢係有責任俾妳知佢既生活
話俾佢聽妳各方面開心同唔開心既感受
同時亦都問返佢自己有D咩感受
然後再嘗試令雙方達至共識

希望妳唔好再喊咁多啦
我好希望妳得到既會係幸福
參考: 我都明白異地戀會出現既問題....
2008-03-14 6:09 pm
you can give him a tie or a schoolbag!!!maybe............

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