如何接受自己的女朋友(基督徒)不是處

I think it's not the matter of your religion, it really depends on your point of view and whether you can accept it or not.

I share the same idea with you and I really hope that my Mr.Right would be a virgin. Before I got married, I insisted to avoid sex with my b/f s and I expected my future husband would be a virgin. However, when I fell in love with him, I found that I was wrong. At that time, I had two choices. To accept or to give up?

At last, I accepted and married him. Though I really mind what happened in his past, I can do nothing with it. Since I love him and I feel that he's the one that God prepares for me, I married him.

Knowing less is a good way to think less of those unhappy things. The "he" "now" is the one I love. What court is "he" is good to me and he won't commit that anymore. Who hasn't got his past? I think I should let go. Just let the bygones be bygone.

But it's just my experience. You can pray and ask God if she is really the one that God prepares for you. If He tells you "Yes" and asks you to love her, ask for the help of God. However, if you really can't accept it and always think of it when you are with her, you 'd better leave her and forget about her. Otherwise, you would be very unhappy even you two get married in the future and it will affect the marriage relationship.

Hope I can help you. :-)

so long He has replented to God and promise you that you both are in One, that is sufficient for you Not to mind his past.
舊事已過,都變成新的了

參考the following website:
不能接受自己的妻子不是處女 http://www.ccmhk.org.hk/ChineseToday/1994/9407_8.htm
我的女朋友原來不是我預期中那樣純潔，我希望我可以接受……
我知道女朋友一些不光彩的過去, 我為此感到很困苦, 我是否太完美主義？

HI~ 先先講聲先,我都係基督徒.. 聽到你咁講,,我明白你煩咩ge~ 你覺得好難接受你女朋友有同x boy fd 發生過關係,,見你寫左咁多野都應該諗左好耐,煩左好耐,,咁la 你e家咩都唔好做祈禱先!! 求神比你安靜同清醒先!!為你女朋友祈禱~ then 認真諗下以下ge問題 :
你愛唔愛主?
佢愛唔愛主?
你愛唔愛佢?
係咪真係咁介意佢唔係處女先? (你要諗下佢都係人,,唔係基督徒就唔會犯罪,,上帝可以原諒我地,,咁你可唔可以原諒佢呢?)
你覺得佢有冇悔意呢?
你有冇同佢傾過你ge感受ar??
你有冇問過佢ge感受ar?
你地對大家係咪認真??

我覺得如果你地係相愛ge~我覺得你地要好好傾下,,如果你e然都係好煩惱ge 話,,你不如搵下你church 你地大家都信任ge傳道人 / 牧師 傾下la ,, 不過你一定要同佢講左先wol ,,仲要表明左你係重視e段關係先好同佢一齊搵其他人傾!!!

唉~ 現今世代邪惡!!.... 你要保守你心,勝過保守一切!!
加油哦!!!God bless you & pray for you~
希望你同你女朋友可以一齊走過e個難關la!!! =]

老實講你咁諗真係同佢分手好過,你介意既話將來一定有事發生.
你真係愛佢愛到要死既話就一定唔會介意呢樣野.
你而家即係處>愛,你一定接受唔到佢.
不過你係正常既,男人真係好介意呢樣野,係本性.
搵過第二件處女啦.
唔好強迫自己去愛,愛係要體會既冇得迫.
迫出黎既就係假野,你係基督徒就更加唔好對自己同佢講大話.

注:我唔係基督徒

這條問題你根本不應在這裡問！！
別人如何看法，你認為對你們往後的日子有影響嗎！？
如果你要以基督徒的立場去看，去知如何處理這段關係，　
非基督徒對你的提議，你認為在出發點在價值觀上一致嗎！？

教會不是單講盲目的愛的地方，我相信你教會的牧者，可以在保護你倆的出發點下，
帶你如何走過．不要自己想自己做了.

我也相信你教會的牧者在過程中，是會保密的．

您是個幸福的人,有一個人向您表白自己的事,只是樣您自己決定前途.須然她之前有做錯,但亦向您說清楚,免得您後悔,這是她的心向著您.現在您是不能接受,無能力改變自己的鎖,原因是您不成熟,太年輕,需要別人開解,或需要好長的時間沖洗自己的想法,這是個好方法.亦即現今年輕人的缺點,不著心於學業及事業而已.若您不能放開,則只要維持您倆的朋友距離,樣時間清洗污點,3-5年之後再檢討一下,可能雙方都看清楚了,或各自有另一半,會更開心呢!您需要的是時間,或與更換人交往,擴大朋友圈子,樣她知道您亦有很多的朋友,不只她一個女友.放寬一點,順其自然罷.上帝會給您安排好的,亦會懲罰壞人,請等待...(她是否在說謊呢?)

你都識講"我叫自己唔好諗...要學神咁寬恕同愛"
而且發生過性行為並不是十分壞的事
既然她坦白告訴你,你更應體諒她
你介意並不是你不夠愛她或不愛她
而是你更愛你自己
你心中希望你的第一次是給一個她也是第一次的人,對嗎?
你並不需要愛她的過去..既然說得上是過去
即是已經真的過去了,過去了的事何必再一直放上心呢
現在社會觀念已經大大不同,如果你是90年代或以前的人
可能你說介意,大家都絕對體諒及明白
因為大家的第一次都是給自己丈夫或老婆
如果她也因為你過去的一件事而十分介意
你又會怎樣處理呢? 難道可以坐時光機回到過去不讓自己發生那件事?
你是基督徒,更加應該學耶穌基督一樣,學懂寬恕及原諒
既然你已經選擇了她,就應該好好珍惜
你並不能夠因為愛她的處女膜才與她一起
而是因為愛她所以與她一起
你再想清楚...究竟你想要的是什麼
你想要的是潔淨的身體還是一種無私的愛
是接受的就要你放開自己的心
學懂接受一切不如意的事
人生並不是事事如意的
美好的人生就是要靠現在和未來
並不是被過去而牽引的,你明白嗎?