Not exactly unfair...more like challenging. That's how I see it. Challenging you tend to try and solve or fix it...unfair you tend to give up. Just a different way of looking at the same thing. It's attitude baby!!
You have to fight for what you want. It doesn't get handed to you...and people WILL screw you along the way. It's a learning process. Keep your guard up and stay focused. Schit happens.