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This is a very serious and long term issue and I really urge you to consider it very very carefully. I used to have a boyfriend many years ago and I thought I love him very much. We were together for 3 years and we eventually broke up. He wanted the break up because he felt he did not love me anymore to continue the relationship. We were in our early 20s and at that time, I thought I love him so much that even though we were to break up, I wanted a baby by him. He patiently told me no. I was so sad, keep crying and did not want to break up with him so the idea of having his baby will give me the comfort and courage to go on living. Anyway, I did not have the baby even though we continue to sex.
When I look back, I felt he was right to discourage me from doing this silly thing because the baby would have stop me from doing lots of things, eg: having a career, travel and starting another completely new relationship etc. Also, having the baby meant that I have to burden my family because I have to work and have no time to look after him which was not fair to anyone. On top of that, my ex-bf would not want him so that will mean he will have no father and I was not even sure I can find a new bf who may possibly accept him. How selfish if I did that to my baby!
I am married now with two kids and I felt very thankful as I did not go ahead with the plan of having a baby with my ex because having a baby is - giving him love by both parents and bringing him up as a team. It will not be complete for the baby to just having a mom.
Good luck and may God bless you.
2007-09-15 23:01:07 補充：
I think I love my husband much more than my ex-bf because he did everything he can to make my life happy.I do sometime dream about my ex-bf and I know he got married very soon after he left me. I was very glad I did not have his baby afterall because I felt it would be very unfair to this baby.,
