我們之間的第三者想退出, 我應該點做好?
2007-09-09 8:38 am
我已結婚,有小朋友, 但我們之間有笫三者, 一年半黎他對我很好, 話會等我, 我們之間有協議, 係睇多一年, (現已過了半年), 我同我老公關係唔好, 佢好唔長進, 我同佢一齊無幸福將來, 因我有小朋友, 令我遲遲未有決定... 我同第三者, 有時也有argue,佢有時也有問我有咩打算, 但我都俾唔到一D好確實既答案, 我覺得我仲有時間考慮, 但在最近一次爭吵中, 佢好嬲,因佢覺得我好無理取鬧, 次後佢話覺得我地真係要諗下應唔應該再繼續...我好hurt,之後我說不如算, 後來我又發覺原來我好愛佢, 佢為我付出好多, 係我以前無珍惜! 現在佢對我好冷淡,佢話要用D時間去考慮,叫我唔好迫佢,如果唔係佢一定睇個好negative既答案我, 即使我同佢講,如果佢肯再試,我已決定離開我老公! 我已唔知點算好, 好似兩頭唔到岸, 我個心已經唔係我老公度, 但佢(笫三者)又可能會離開我, 我應該點算好? 我好似係度等人判刑咁, 明明大家協議左, 仲有半年時間, 但佢話佢睇唔到我有呢個打算, 佢對我無信心...但佢都知我同我老公關係好差GA LA..... 你地覺得如果佢要諗即係有無希望呢?
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2007-09-09 9:33 pm
✔ 最佳答案
你講咩協議, 三個之中你係最唔守協議既一個, 你點解同你老公結婚呢, 點解肯同佢定一個甘苦與共的協議呢, 你老公係咪本來好長進,係呢一年半特然變左唔長進咩,我諗唔係囉, 根本你已經冇以前咁愛佢, 你記唔記得, 你結婚宣誓的時候講d乜同你咩心情呀, 你張你一生負托比佢, 你都要預左以後有問題要面對架啦, 要面對的除左大家一齊要面對的問題外, 仲有幫對方支持對方解決問題, 如果你話佢唔長進而令你開始接受唔到, 你唔應該只係等/鬧/問/怨/煩.., 你應該搵方法幫佢解決同鼓勵佢, 兩公婆一齊去面對, 而唔係自己去勾佬, 你由勾佬果一刻, 你已經放棄你老公, 仔女, 家庭啦,
雖然依加離婚不為鮮見, 但係你自私, 你要搵到一個你依一刻又認為佢可以付托的人先至離開佢, 本來你地自己有問題自己可以解決, 分開又好保救又好, 係兩個人的問題, 你依加根本一dd都冇理你老公既感受,你可能話佢都冇理你感受, 但2 個人一齊夠景係互相傷害定互相相愛呢? 本來佢要面對自己的缺點令佢冇左你, 已經好難接受, 依加加埋你有第三者, 佢心態係幾痛幾辛苦你知嗎? 佢以後仲佑面對仔女家人, 你連分開都要hurt佢鑊金, 呢d就係你地咁多年夫婦恩情?
你依加仲要講 [好似兩頭唔到岸]. 你係咪冇男人會死呀, 你同你老公, 係因為你地有問題, 你可以同佢分開, 之後大家可以搵過第二個, 但依加唔係搵公唔可以騎牛搵馬, 未辭職去見工甚至返工, 冇野係兩全其美, 包括你依加個姦夫, 都未必係100%岩你, 可能第日你又因一d自私的睇法而再搵個姦姦夫, 因為人係冇完美同時人的要求會越來越高,
依加姦夫要諗你未比佢諗囉, 你自己都好應該指細諗清楚啦, 如果決定你就係依段時間, 係你仲已經冇任何姦夫的時間, 同你老公搞清楚, 到自己自由身, 你搵你的伴侶都係正常, 如果唔係, 永遠佢都係你既姦夫, 佢係姦夫咁你自然係.............
如果係你的, 你地點都會一齊, 佢個心都會係你到架啦, 無謂比大家的身份令到大家有個沽點, 你搞清楚你自己的問題, 再同佢開始一段新的感情啦,
自私唔可以自私一世, 諗野為你中意的人出發啦,
2007-09-10 13:12:42 補充：
我係freemandicken, 我想回應你但不知在何處回, 如果你見到意見, 請email, [email protected]
2007-09-09 5:13 pm
dont be silly.
first u have to love ur husband and remember why you both started to make a family? plus others said, ur kid is an innocent.
i guess ur bf will not take care of you later. the reason is, u have a kid and many things he has to fix. and ur kid likes ur bf or not?
why push him/her to have a new daddy?
when u make decision, u have think about ur kid.
husband will around you and you have to talk with him seriously. all the best to you.
pls note, third party is not reliable. understood your husband is not good but why you chose him in advance? if it is the case, then you have to accept and see how to improve TOGETHER instead of loving other man.
it is really unfair to your husband as well as your bf.
you are not right on the case, sorry but i have to write so, think deeply how to face your husband and settle ur bf.
ALL THE BEST!
first u have to love ur husband and remember why you both started to make a family? plus others said, ur kid is an innocent.
i guess ur bf will not take care of you later. the reason is, u have a kid and many things he has to fix. and ur kid likes ur bf or not?
why push him/her to have a new daddy?
when u make decision, u have think about ur kid.
husband will around you and you have to talk with him seriously. all the best to you.
pls note, third party is not reliable. understood your husband is not good but why you chose him in advance? if it is the case, then you have to accept and see how to improve TOGETHER instead of loving other man.
it is really unfair to your husband as well as your bf.
you are not right on the case, sorry but i have to write so, think deeply how to face your husband and settle ur bf.
ALL THE BEST!
2007-09-09 9:02 am
我覺得仲有希望既...佢咁嬲你..係因為佢好愛你...其實佢好想你快D同你老公分手...不過又唔想比壓力你...所以佢寧願自己辛苦咁等你既答案...試問有邊個想自己愛既人要同人分...
須言你話佢係知你同你老公係關係唔好...但你地始終係住埋一齊...佢好難唔去亂諗...所以我覺得如果你真係好鐘意佢...應該快D去解決...你可以要埋個小朋友去跟佢...我諗佢咁愛你一定唔介意既...我怏D同佢傾下啦...唔好再拖啦...
須言你話佢係知你同你老公係關係唔好...但你地始終係住埋一齊...佢好難唔去亂諗...所以我覺得如果你真係好鐘意佢...應該快D去解決...你可以要埋個小朋友去跟佢...我諗佢咁愛你一定唔介意既...我怏D同佢傾下啦...唔好再拖啦...
參考: 其實我男友都好似你咁有第三者....不過我個角色似你個第三者男友....因為我都係似佢咁要同人分我愛既人...
2007-09-09 8:45 am
如果係咁．．．．最好唔好離開你老公先，你要想想小朋友的感受，小朋友日後會唔會又有樣學樣呢？
小朋友係無辜，比一個美好的家庭（親生老豆同阿媽）係你地的責任
你話你個心唔係你老公度，不如你想返起你同你老公浪費的日子，睇下有冇感覺先啦
凡事坐低有商量．．．．．．
2007-09-09 00:46:20 補充：
有時我見到我老豆同阿媽吵架我都好心痛．．．．好驚．．．．．
小朋友係無辜，比一個美好的家庭（親生老豆同阿媽）係你地的責任
你話你個心唔係你老公度，不如你想返起你同你老公浪費的日子，睇下有冇感覺先啦
凡事坐低有商量．．．．．．
2007-09-09 00:46:20 補充：
有時我見到我老豆同阿媽吵架我都好心痛．．．．好驚．．．．．
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