我好辛苦-奶奶發皮氣不停成晚話我, 說話勁難聽

2007-08-03 9:01 pm
我結婚一開始就同佢屋企人住近來有問題, 這件事為例, 我囡囡的表姐過來睡一齊玩, 但奶奶話我囡囡打表姐, 因我不在場只聽到聲, 所以兩個都話, 如果玩得唔開心, 不如分開啦, 表姐返自己屋企, 之後奶奶發皮氣, 借我個囡來話我, d說話勁難聽, 我一句都無頂佢, 我費是一開聲老公難做, 之後奶奶叫我個女出房門口, 叫佢同我地睡, 我囡囡一路cry, 唔應該用小朋友出氣, 好hrt個小朋友, 因只有3歲半. 跟住老公細妹話同bb過來睡, 我只是問做咩事過來, 只是問下, 點之奶奶話why唔過得來, 又問我有無背帶背bb, 因只有舊式, 我問點解佢唔帶怕舊式唔識用, 背唔到bb, 跟住奶奶走左出來, 我只是問下而已, 問都唔得, 無天理.件件事都係我錯, 平時都係佢地決定晒先通知我地, 問都唔問下,why樣樣野只有佢講無我講, 奶奶大晒呀, 唔通做媳婦唔出得聲, 咩年代, 唔出聲係比面老公費是難做, 而我老公未必會出聲, 好辛苦! 我可以點做?
更新1:

多謝各位的意見, 我都有工作, 每日十一幾才可停手, 早上返工, 七時返到屋企, 接著自己白白, 洗衫, 同囡囡白白, 教佢工課, 囡囡食飯先, 因老公做到好夜, 食完飯都10:00有多, 洗碗, 洗廚房, 地下, 同囡囡準備書包校服, 準備好各樣已經11:00有多, 因我覺得奶奶日頭要睇住囡囡, 晚上煮飯好辛苦, 所以我咩都唔使奶奶做, 自己一個辛苦算了, 反正我後生, 每個星期六日我不用上班會自己睇囡囡, 我都想多d時間睇囡囡, 返工無計, 因是公婆各一份, 係咪又係我錯, 好開心可以同大家講這個經歷, 我以後都唔會出聲話佢d孫, 自己o個個例外, 無論做錯d咩都唔理日後自己成受番.

回答 (6)

2007-08-06 5:26 am
✔ 最佳答案
I think you have married a wrong husband. Because as a husband, he must be 100% on your side. His mother can't do anything to him anyways. Your husband must let his mother know that if she stressed you, then he would be on your side. If she kept making troubles, then he would just be very miserable. So his mother must be more considering about the family relationship. And so every family member must make sure that the system in the family will work.
It is year 2007 now, nobody in a family is 大晒. You guys all belong together and should help and be fair each other. Tell you husband to start working on it so you and your 奶奶 can have a chance to get to know each other better and improve the relationship. And then the problem would be gone.
You cannot just live like this and being upset for the next 20 or 30 years~
Solve the problem, your husband is the one who has the largest resiponsable for this.

2007-08-06 17:56:26 補充:
You have to let your 奶奶 understand that YOU are the person who is going to take care of her son in the rest of his life. So she has no point to 針對 you and bother you all the time on purpose. Your 奶奶 should be thankful that you are there for her son in the rest of his life.
2007-08-03 10:31 pm
相見好!同住難!千古不變的道理.何況奶奶同新抱!搬出去住就最好!你要知每個屋企都有分莊閒!無辦法!在人屋詹下好辛苦的!
2007-08-03 10:22 pm
您巳做得很好!

可以和奶奶相處幾年,

有時真的要忍耐一吓,

如果奶奶話您, 您當她是自己的媽媽, 要點想像力,

媽媽對您發脾氣您怎做?

多點了解, 奶奶也可能是問一吓!

而且上一代的人有時喜歡用冷言冷語的, 不要太介懷.

而且, 相見好, 同住難!

磨擦是少不免!
2007-08-03 10:22 pm
感同身受, 這些年來除了忍還是忍, 不過可以講些做法你參考,
1. 你必須返工 (見得多, argue就多)
2. 視而不見, 聽而不聞 (佢罵你個女由得佢, 如果你知你個女不對, 不要出聲, 如果係奶奶不對, 你可以選擇一不做二不休, 扮幫你奶奶, 在她面前勁打你個女(當然自己落手小心就位用力), 等你奶奶自己話算數, 還要你個女向佢say sorry, 目的等佢知道不能用小孩做禍心, 當然立即帶個女入房同佢講清楚, 等個女知道原因, 亦要向女兒解釋及道歉.
3. 一於少理, 就連佢病都話唔知, 男家的人與事, 不聞亦不問, 生死都不關你事.
4. 不要讓老公同你奶奶有獨處一室的機會, 星期六日holiday就一家三口去街, 免得奶奶造遙生事.
不是教你做壞人, 但這些做法是親身經歷的人才有, 不是社工又或是不同奶奶住的人可以領悟, 亦不是口講做廣告做戲所講的"始終都係一家人"咁容易.... 亦不是不認同家有一老如有一寶的道理, 只不過媳婦不是自己親生女, 奶奶不是自己親娘, 而大部份老人家亦認為媳婦永遠是外人, 就是這麼簡單. 能同一屋詹下在不用工作而每日都要相對的情況下, 已是現今世上其中一件大難事, 亦證明這個媳婦已有超人的忍耐力, 不是人人可以的. 你既然有能力忍就要研究平日的做法lu, 除非你能成為家中的唯一經濟支柱, 當然可以搬就搬, 因為當你女上小學時就更多好戲睇, 學做過又盲又聾又啞的人是個不錯的選擇, 所謂河水不犯井水...
參考: myself
2007-08-03 10:19 pm
d老人家係咁嫁啦
忍耐下吧
佢鬧妳,妳係咁答:哦.....
佢就冇引就唔多講野嫁啦
2007-08-03 9:14 pm
這是我的意見:
我應為您可以問一下社工看看有沒有幫助,這可是家庭問題啊!
參考: 個人意見

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