my husband 56,and he constantly threatens me that he sees people have kid and he wants. I am so frightened,my concerns are financial,physical,mental,so many problems. but he thinks life is to face problems. what should i do? married 4 years both first marriage.
he always blames me for working in my job hard and he says i should take care of kid,but i am he one who pays all the bill ansd i am not rich at all. besides,i do all the houseworks,i am so miserable.please help.
i am 44 dont want kid
2007-06-21 2:49 pm
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2007-06-22 1:21 am
✔ 最佳答案
simply: both of you are a bit old for having a baby. besides, will he be able to pay for all the bills including a big amount for the baby's live and everything?he asks you to stay at home to take care of kids, or he wants you to stay to take care of him?
if he has been the one to pay everything since married, you may consider to have a kid. like the situation now, I myself will never do that!
god bless
參考: my own consideration
2007-06-22 12:11 am
You're the one who pays the bills and does all the housework, so what does your husband do? I tend to believe that those who make contributions can make decisions.
Frankly speaking, both of you seem to be a bit too old to have kids. If you have never given birth before, having a first child at this age is pretty dangerous for you. Your husband wants a child so badly, but has he ever considered the risk that you have to face?
And even if you have a child now, he/she would only be in his/her teen when your husband reaches retirement age. And you may also need to pay more medical expenses as you and your husband get older. How are you two going to cope? it's likely that you'll have to shoulder the financial responsibilty alone.
It seems to me that your husband is pretty selfish. Tell him all the constraints you have. Ask him for a concrete plan if he insists to have a child. Chances are he doesn't have a clue. A child will only add to your burden. Do not take up an extra burden when you're already quite burnt out.
Insist that your husband make some financial contribution to the family and do some housework. He cannot just sit back and relax while you do all the work. Take care.
Frankly speaking, both of you seem to be a bit too old to have kids. If you have never given birth before, having a first child at this age is pretty dangerous for you. Your husband wants a child so badly, but has he ever considered the risk that you have to face?
And even if you have a child now, he/she would only be in his/her teen when your husband reaches retirement age. And you may also need to pay more medical expenses as you and your husband get older. How are you two going to cope? it's likely that you'll have to shoulder the financial responsibilty alone.
It seems to me that your husband is pretty selfish. Tell him all the constraints you have. Ask him for a concrete plan if he insists to have a child. Chances are he doesn't have a clue. A child will only add to your burden. Do not take up an extra burden when you're already quite burnt out.
Insist that your husband make some financial contribution to the family and do some housework. He cannot just sit back and relax while you do all the work. Take care.
2007-06-21 5:13 pm
If you really love your husband, you will accept his demand, but in the real world has so many problem. I think you have to discuss with him and let him know your problem: you have to pay all the bill and do all the houseworks. If he will share with you, that's ok to deliver baby. If he just has no responsibility, you will be very hard to handle too much. So just no kid is better. But if so, you have to prepare to predict that he will find another woman!
參考: just my thinking
2007-06-21 4:23 pm
That's a touchy issue.
If I were you, I would like to page
SOCIAL FAMILY AFFAIRS AT TEL 2318 0028
for additional and/or necessary education/advice purpose.
S.F.A. could hit the nail on the head cos she gets uncountable experience.
A house/family divided against itself cannot stand.
Good luck !
If I were you, I would like to page
SOCIAL FAMILY AFFAIRS AT TEL 2318 0028
for additional and/or necessary education/advice purpose.
S.F.A. could hit the nail on the head cos she gets uncountable experience.
A house/family divided against itself cannot stand.
Good luck !
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