how do you get a child to respect you?

be consistent, demonstrate by example, show no favoritism among his siblings, explain in terms he can understand and by using illustrations, balance your discipline with affection, make an impression that there is a line that separates you as a grown up from him being a child, and last but not least, love.

Treat them with respect and hold them accountable when they do something wrong and praise them when they do something well. You can't make a child respect you, you can make them fear you. It's not the same thing. You must respect someone in order to get the respect back.

LOL does this question follow with
How do I understand my teenager?

How about.........

How do I get my husband to mow the lawn?

Why are men, men? LOL

No seriously as the mother of 2 boys (18 and 15) and 2 girls (10 and 5 months) it's very hard and very stressful to get the respect you feel you deserve.....did you get that YOU FEEL YOU DESERVE. So many times parents mistake this as the correct defining pattern of a parent and child. But if you ask most kids, they'll tell you they do respect their parents...on their level.

My 15 year old son is ADHD and we have struggled with eachother since he was 7, mostly because he and I agree on the same thing, we each think we are always right. It's been a constant struggle, when I married my current husband he and his 15 year old son came to live with us, and it would upsett me how my step son (hate that word) would talk to his dad. One day I gave him a big ol honkin lecture about respect and blah blah blah, well he shocked me, he told me very matter of factly he did respect his dad a great deal, but he didn't have to agree with him all the time and he was certainly allowed to make his own mind up about how he felt on certain subjects. WOW that got me thinking, so I sat down with my son (whom I was convinced hated my guts and thought I was the moron queen) we talked about respect and he told me pretty much the same thing, he respected me but he guessed not enough because of my emotional outbreaks.

My point is, kids are human beings made and created the same as adults and they have emotions, needs and desires the same as us and some times (not always) we need to give them a break.

My son and I still struggle, but now those outburst I used to find offensive and disrespectful are just him stating his opinion. He is after all entitled to it, just so long as he understands I get the deciding vote! ~;o)

Be respectful with your spouse to show a good example. Mean what you say when you tell your child what you expect form them. There are people who let their children run all over them. If they are not behaving don't just tell them to behave but make sure they DO behave. So lets say you're at a meeting (girl scouts for example) if your little sweetheart is getting up, running around and just plain being a pain. Don't just say ..behave Sweet ! I said behave! If you don't behave we are leaving....etc etc etc. You need to actually get up and make them behave. Let them know you mean business. Don't just threaten them with leaving but actually get up and leave with them. Don't let them call you names, or disrespect you in any way don't let them hit you either, even if they are little....let them know that is not acceptable behavior. . For me that even mean rolling their eyes up in their head when you speak to them, that is disrespectful. Tone of voice used can also be disrespectful. Do it when they are young and continue as they grow. It will become automatic because they will know what to expect from you. It is much harder to stop disrespectful behavior if you have let it go on and on for a long time.

I don't know how old is your child. The most important is that you have to set a good example to them. "How come you/daddy can do it and I can't." It makes it difficult for them to respect you if "double standard" occurs in the house.

Yes, you have to do it from day one - i mean when they're really young. Well, I always let them have an option (of course it can't be something that will hurt themselves. Safety is above everything.) Then I'll let them know what will the consequence be if they decided to choose what they want. Sometimes if you know they can afford those mistakes let them do it. A few times later, then they'll learn their lesson and listen to you.

A child will not respect you until YOU teach them how to respect!!!!!!!!!!!! Respecting people is NOT something a child does automatically!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember, children are like a sponge; they copy everything they hear and see....................

Treat your child with respect--make sure that you act respectfully in front of the child at all times--children learn what they live and especially from what you do--not as much as what you say! Do not try to be the child's friend--they need rules and limits and boundaries and although they may fuss about it--they will respect you for your holding them accountable. Many parents make the mistake of trying to be the child's friend--always remember you are their mother--or father--not their friend--you have the responsiblity of raising them to be successful citizens--its ok to talk to them but don;t give in on issues that you know you should not give in on just to make them love you--they will derive respect and support from you and then learn to give it to others--this is how you teach them to respect--remember you are the first authority figure in their life--if they learn to respect you--they will learn to respect authority and won't end up in any courtroom situations!
Make sure there is an agreement between the child's caregivers to show respect to each other also for kids will mimic your behavior! They begin to learn very young!

Manage your expectations. How old is the child?

Respect is kind of a hard thing for younger kids to really understand. You can train them from a young age, but it's more about following the motions of what they've been taught.

If you actually ask most kids what respect is, and how to give it, I doubt they'd know how to answer.

I remember when I was younger, I really looked up to my uncle and in hindsight, I did respect him a lot. But one time I was trying to be funny when he was talking to me, and I quoted Bugs Bunny (back in the day) when he used to say, "Ehhh ... shut up."

Anyway, to me it was funny. But he didn't like it, and told me as much. I felt really bad about it, but it never occured to me that it would be disrespectful, because of my age.

Anyway, all I'm saying is that younger kids can't be expected to actually RESPECT, but rather to use manners until they're old enough for you to teach them what respect really is.

well it partially depends on whether its your child or someone else's child... your own child you would have to teach them and show them respect in order to recieve it, as far as someone else's child goes... alot of it depends on how they were raised... for instance if the child was abused you would have to try and be a friend, if the child was really spoiled you would have to be incredibly strict, or if the child was out of control you would have to find a form of common ground... like the same interest. any which way it goes the best way to gain respect is to show respect and to befriend the child first so that they dont feel obligated to go against you.

I've always been like a friend with the children, become interactive in discussions, share feelings and likes/dislikes, so that they can approach you. However, you must also let them know when you are being serious either by lowering your tone or warning them that you are not joking anymore. Respect from a child takes time so don't expect miracles within the first week. This is from experience from being prefect of different forms, teaching young children and caring for family.