如何克服恐懼

I had this kind of experience. Don't worry. You are not alone.

1) Think of something that you really like to do. Force yourself to do it. (I like massage, facial, going to salon, watchingmovies alone..etc)
2) Try not to ask bf too many questions. I liked to make clear a lot of things. But I tried not to called him and asked him anything, at least not all the time. I changed my attitude and only concern, no complaints (its hard but I forced myself to do it). My bf feel I have changed then he began to talk to me more.
3) I let my bf go to anywhere he wants (before I do not want him to do that and also crying and want him to stay with me..etc) He was scared, but now I changed then he began to hold my hand again and go out with me.
4) Try to think positive and optimistic. If you always think negatively, then you won't feel happy. Think positive, then you will feel happy. There is a book call "Be happy to be yourself". Read it , do it and you will find yourself different. Also, another book called "戀愛的不安". I read it and I found that I do not see myself need to really stick on my bf.

If you still not feeling good, please call 2382 0000 (24 hours) or Monday to Friday (2:00pm - 10:00pm) at 2772 0047 (press 1 , then press 9) to talk to those counsellors. They might be able to help you.

Its a long road when you have relationship with your a guy. But the most of all, when you find out you really love him, you will let go. I hope all these words can help and make you feel better.

Last thing, you can also pray to Jesus. He is always there to listen to you and accompany you. You are not alone. May God Bless you and Jesus loves you.

You can also email me at [email protected]

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P.S: 你要記住 ~ 人係為自己而生存, 二個人一起可以好開心, 即使自己一個都可以好開心架! 祝你能得到真正的幸福, 唔會再失去!

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