well, from my view. your frist paragraph is speakless, it does not matter!!
and, from secord of my view, is depending on how the man love you and how hard he love you yet it is meanless. in nowadays, even you got a baby, you' re still a woman or girl, intention to date with many guys that is not a sin, if someone mind that, they're not your one and they are ignorant. so enjoy your love... you can be if u want...