I found a group of new friends after things turns out very bad the other side when I sort of had a misunderstanding with the other group of friends I used to have fun with. This group of new friends let’s name them “A” I had found a girl which I can sort of turn to when I am sad. But she never solves the problem for me & the group and things get even worse some times, she even asks us to miss lessons. She kept giving us faces when things are not in her plan. We reject the offer when she asks to miss lessons. We don’t blame her; I guess this is who she is. She kept promising and saying that she/we shall keep in touch after we graduate and this subject is brought up everyday in school. And we graduated 4 months ago, she kept rejected the calls we had made, we planned a lot of activities like BBQ, catching a movies, snow city, cycling, and karaoke. And a lot of reasons she gave is very obvious that she is rejecting. She has a boyfriend. Is that the main reason she don’t want us? We all felt that she is just using us in school to like keep accompany with her, after she graduate she doesn’t wants to contact with us anymore.
But when she needs to get someone to accompany her to find jobs, shopping etc. she will come back to either one of us.
Does she even think of us as her friend?
2007-04-22 6:10 am
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2007-04-22 6:49 am
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Do you actually feel like you are being treated like a friend? If you are doing all the giving that's not friendship. Apparently you are dissatisfied with the relationship then it can' be a friendship.
Things also change when you enter college. New relationships form (espically if you attend college away from home) and you have to deal with a whole new environment alone that your focus changes.
No friend will ask you to do things that will make you do something that you wouldn't ordinarily do. If she decides to do something that is not right you do have the decision to say no. If she tries to force or manipulate you into doing something you know is not right for you then what kind of friend is that?
If they are also the kind of friend that everything centers on them then that's who they are. Since you know tha's how she is then it's up to you to decide wheather or not you desire to continue this "friendship" or not.
You have choices. Are you being around her because it makes you feel important or part of the "in" crowd? If her feelings change about you will everyone else follow her lead? These are not friends or any type of relationship.
Does she treat everyone else the same way? Do your other friends treat you whatever way she depicts? Do you and the others discuss her mistreatment?
That means she is having control over all of you and how you relate to each other.
Have you ever seen "MEAN GIRLS"
Just don't forget that she can't make you do anything you don't want to. A friend would never do anything to put you in harms way.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Love, peace and hair grease!!!!!
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2007-04-22 7:56 am
i think she's a bit busy. but i think u should tell her the truth,tell her how u feel inside.
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