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It's a good question. For me, I agree that sometimes it's useful for body punishment, but sometimes we need our love to bear what he did wrong. I don't think that we just show our love from time to time when our son doing the same thing in a wrong direction frequently. Even, in Bible, you'll find that our God allows us to punish our son for fear that he'll go to hell. For my experience, the 1st time my son doing wrong, I'll give him verbal warning, it shows my love on it, but if 2nd/3rd time, I'll give him body punishment.
It seems that he's under my control but he can feel how I love him. My approach on it is the body punishment should be gradually decreased when he gradually grows up because at that time he's supposed to have understanding or be mature.
There is a good book for your question which I would like to recommend you to have a look, the name is "Sculpturing with Love----Successful Parenting" by Josephine Chiu.
2007-02-27 00:12:15 補充:
After I gave my son the body punishment, I'll explain him in detail of the reason and let him knowing that I didn't hate him, but just the behaviour I didn't like. Also he needs to know it's our family's rules that he has to obey, such as the school rules that he needs to obey.
2007-02-28 10:34:05 補充:
The Chinese Version of the book that I recommend you to read is 愛的雕琢 : 如何作成功父母 / 竹君著. which you can borrow it from the library.I remembered that one time when I lent it to my son's swimming mate's mother,she loved it very much and then bought one for herself for reference.