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I think u are making the situation more complicated than it should be.
1. u said, 但我覺得， 最重要是那個人我真的愛他， 如果我真的愛他， 我就什麼都不介意， 我覺得這就對我是最好...
Do u find what u said problematic? As the Bible said, not everything is beneficial for u to do. What do u mean by 什麼都不介意? U don't even mind if the person is married? or if s/he doesn't love u? or if the person is the same gender as u are?
Sorry if I am being too harsh, but what u said is very immature. I think u 真的愛他 is really important but I think there are other issues that are just AS important. True love is not just about YOU and what YOU want/ love. I guess u should be familiar with 1 Corinthians 13, right?
RE: 我覺得這就對我是最好...
Yes this is what YOU think. God knows better or you know better?
I did not believe that playing violin and doing those stupid violin exams would do me any good until I got my certificates and now even though I am not a famous violinist, I am able to make extra money by teaching violin as a side job. I am grateful that my mom did not let me give up violin and kept on giving me opportunities and support (especially financially because private music lesson is not cheap and my parents did spend a lot of money on me while they did not know if I am capable of getting anything out of it) even though I am not that talented. I am glad that I listened to my mom.
I do not believe that God is any less than my mom. Sometimes we simply have to trust the authority---God----our Father who loves us very very much.
God has put so many ppl around u and He has a plan for u. It's ur 自由意志去選擇 what u are going to do with His plan and how do u handle the relationship between urself and the ppl around u.
I still believe that 要 先 求 他 的 國 、 和 他 的 義 , and other things He will add it onto you. (Matthew 6:33) ---> Jesus DID say this, it's in the Bible.
2. RE: 如果我愛的人， 他不給我， 他就有辦法不給我， 他就會把我們２個分開．．
Sometimes we simply can't blame everything to God. As I said above, yes u truly love the person, so what? Does that mean u guys are meant to be together? If your choice was not rigth to start with, God does not even need to 分開 u 2, the reality would.
Also, I believe that God allows us to make mistakes (look at the Jewish ppl and even just King David) so I do NOT think that would be the case as 不是主選擇給我們的那個, 就不能和他一生一世 or if u marry the one who is not chosen by God, ur relationship or marriage will be cursed. I think u picture God too controling.
My understanding is that in God's plan, God has given us an idea of what our spouse should be like (as the Bible teaches us, husbands should love their wife as Christ loves the church and so u would want a husband who loves u like Christ loves the church), and u also have personal preferences (like how tall, how fat, what kind of personalities such as a serious person, a funny person etc)
God has put many many choices around u (obvious u wouldn't know every single person on the planet so I guess "the chosen one" for u can't be a person u won't be able to meet) so I think that so-called 主給我們一個最好的另一半 may not be simply ONE individual, Mr. XXX, but rather a person who has all the qualities that are the best for u. You may not like the fact that ur "chosen other" doesn't like what u like (such as u love sushi but he hates it), but if s/he is meant to be the one who is going to spend the rest of ur life with u, then u will find each other COMPATIBLE.
Last but not least,
但祂不會迫你,
選擇權仍在你手。
really??
YES, for real, absolutely.
If God does, Adam and Eve would not have a chance to eat the fruit, and there won't be any problem. God allows us to seek and experience (just like what u are doing) and at the end you are the one who lives out ur own life.
Pray for wisdom in handling situations and have faith in God that He will provide the best (as in what He knows, not what you think).
